The Jungle Principle To Raise A Woman's Self-Esteem

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Why am I writing these articles? And this one, in particular …

My goal is to raise the dignity of a Russian woman. Russian, Ukrainian, Kazakh, Uzbek, Kyrgyz …

Everyone whose grandmothers were united by one misfortune. Some authors have already written about this. But I will touch on this topic again.

When wars knocked on the doors of a woman of those times, she was in ruins. Around her was a wasteland of pain and one or two little men, lame after wounds, with victory, but traumatized psyche, then she … Involuntarily stopped thinking about her dignity … Or rather - what can a hungry orphan child think? How and where to quickly get a crumb or even a moldy stub of bread … The woman's psyche was also undermined, this trauma on both sides.

Here is Bert Hellinger - he began to look for ways to heal his German people. He spoke about how the shadows of our ancestors, and them, and ours, who went through the war, now continue to influence our destinies. And how we "pay" today for the wars of those years … at the genetic level.

And so the woman, like a hungry orphan, began to scour in search of love. And then she was ready for ANY OPTION.

Let me give you an example. I then worked at the International Marriage Agency. We talked a lot with foreign men and locals who lived over the hill, about what kind of women there and here …

And here is such a dialogue:

- Well, tell me, what kind of women are there? - our director.

- Oh, the girls there are very different from "ours". They are somehow more intellectually educated and, accordingly, think and communicate very freely. Very independent. Here she is the first to divorce or part with a guy, even because of every little thing.

- What, for example?

“She won't like the smell of a man's socks. Or some other little thing. She can freely part and find herself immediately "another".

We draw a conclusion. Yeah, a foreigner cannot be kept in a relationship, even if she did not like something in a man in general, not that he somehow harmed her in some special way. And so, some kind of detail in his habits or character, and that's it: nothing holds her anymore. SHE IS SURE THAT TOMORROW SHE WILL CREATE RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WHO DOES NOT HAVE THIS PROBLEM …

Our Russian (Kazakh, Ukrainian … and another post-Soviet woman) - will not get divorced, even if … we keep silent about the smell of socks or bad breath, suppose … even if he comes hard on her borders … and yes … no matter how bitter it is … even if he beats her and her life (as well as the lives of her children) will be in jeopardy. She will doubt, believe that he loves her and therefore beats her and she will not even leave him under any circumstances, if she is already told that this is not normal and it would be necessary to leave this … "alcoholic" for example … And then - she WILL NOT LEAVE !!!!

A Russian woman, a Soviet woman, you are reading these lines, and I hear a sad sigh of consent escaping from your tortured soul …

And then we met with a Canadian.

- Our women are worried that when they get married, your men will force them to stay at home and will not allow them to work … - The director of the Agency expresses the fears of all our women that they have become independent here, but the family is firmly connected in their subconsciousness with everyday and economic violence. (These are already the consequences of the time after the collapse of the USSR, when the first new Russians / Kazakhs … appeared)

- What? - the Canadian does not understand, - no, this is not accepted in our country. Our neighbors and other people will not understand a woman sitting at home and not working.

(It is believed that a woman is somehow completely useless if she sits at home … Women abroad consider it normal to work and have their own income, their own profession, their education, as a normal self-sufficient adult, that is, an independent person).

- Why do we want to find a bride in Ukraine, Russia and Kazakhstan? Our women can very easily leave their family, go to “another”. Even leave the children with their father. Our women are more likely than men to get divorced and more often go to another, better man in her opinion.

(Also skewed. This is the situation. In terms of values today, a foreigner, with a high value of family, women and children, is like "our" woman with a high value of men, family, and children).

You have probably heard yourself that the majority of foreign women in Canada, Germany and other countries, most often without make-up and styling, and even somewhat "unkempt", but at the same time with a high sense of their own dignity, feel absolutely independent and men have no problems. Why is our woman - a beautiful and clever girl, a Komsomol member and an athlete sitting alone at home, or scouring in search of a man in nightclubs with her friends, and in the worst case, dragging her bags herself, moving furniture and a drunk husband in addition from door to sofa? Daily…

I suggest you call this the principle of the Jungle - the spiritual plan of the creator, regarding love between the sexes, reflected in the biological structure of planet Earth. Jungle - it seems to me exactly the place where there are a lot of species, and subspecies, and species of subspecies … animals, as well as conditions for reproduction. In general, I believe that the creator's intention and his vision of healthy relationships are the most reasonable to unravel in his immediate, most accessible and closest to us creation.

Let's imagine a female peacock. And I must say, in nature, males, like boys, are born more than females (girls). And here is the female peacock, an absolutely gray plump mass, sits during the mating season. And around her, many times more than one, beautifully decorated and groomed males. And she does nothing to mate. She does not look for, does not run, does not apply a hundred layers of make-up, and a liter of hairspray … She just sits, with a sense of her own peacock dignity, and you-bi-ra-et … And not right away, but after testing and checking for suitable male.

I noticed that foreign men are more well-groomed, youthful, athletic and more sociable, they dance well and they try to be mega-competitive, unlike our men in tights with beer, a shaggy head and a plump belly. And our women, well-groomed, pomaded, in short skirts with tall stiletto heels, what do they do at event parties (I saw this there, but I wouldn't be surprised if it is everywhere)? As soon as a foreigner enters the hall, they run to meet him from all sides, no slower than peacock males. And how, in this situation, not to become our (only later and foreign) man - that fat colorless female peacock?

So when did we lose our dignity and how can we get it back? I understand that it is difficult to maintain dignity, or rather to restore, over and over again, scraping your body, trampled with traces of men's shoes, from the dusty asphalt, or what is “better” - to pick out from the cesspool … When all around you there are only gray peacock feathers, instead of the falcon's gaze and the wing of the male, keeping faithful, protecting the nest while the female feeds the chicks, of a courageous profile and a noble heart.

When … in a country where the standard of living is much higher, the duration of men is much longer, there are simply actually quantitatively more of them, and a woman willy-nilly turns into a woman conceived by nature: calm, contented, peaceful and 100% self-confident. Because she, even with a small baby, is always financially protected. Because she won't be spanked on the bottom by her boss. And … let's start with the fact that she will not be beaten, but even a little morally hurt by her father! Otherwise, he will be prosecuted.

Her dignity begins with her diaper … But let's remember the beginning of our conversation. If we want to look deeper into the root, then her dignity begins long before her birth, it was nurtured by her grandmother. And in such a rooted form it reached in the bricks of her DNA that it is no longer possible for a modern foreigner to be even in smelly socks, because the competitor does not sleep, and he tries to keep the bar high.

And let's look at another example. I work with women (as well as with men) on various issues, but one of them is healing from love unhappiness, love addiction and other love situations. So, why did research in this area and programs that society badly needed appeared in America, for example, as one of the options, why did they originate there? Because it is there - love addiction, the inability of a woman to get away from her husband who does not love or mock her - are considered a pathology. And here it has been considered the NORMAL for many decades! Sleeping with a boss, having a lover / mistress (up and down), living with an alcoholic and other "delights" of inter-sex relations are elevated into a cult of jokes, everyday conversations, get-togethers, bachelorette parties over a glass …

But believe me, dear, having your dignity does not mean sleeping with peasants for money, from whom you get more money - so you will sleep, this does not mean having five partners per night, or three wives (one legal and two underground). Having your own dignity does not even mean arrogantly with an arrogant mug … and walking around on the same spikes all over the place (although they are innocent, of course, it has nothing to do with it) and discussing all the guys around you … And how do I live without them? Yes, best of all, girls! Already the tenth-twentieth-thirtieth year … really … Girlfriends are already grandmothers, and I'm all young! Eh-eh …

But there is only a goat around me…. How can one restore the dignity among them, which my grandmother also lost? I'll tell you a secret, dear. Do they not appreciate you? Go away, run away. Go where you are appreciated! Go, leave, move … And just take a worthy place in your soul. They will not stop wiping their feet about you where they have wiped them a hundred times. Look for the place where they will see in you a temple of love, purity, pearl necklaces and emerald tints. There, where they will see in you a bird of paradise of heavenly beauty, and not a plucked chicken, not suitable even for chicken broth.

It’s not a matter of the country, of course, by and large, in the fact that simultaneously with dignity, self-worth automatically comes, the ability to surround oneself with worthy people, and the role of a poor unhappy orphan, who comes across bad people around, disappears somewhere, and there is no way out. The focus shifts from offenders to real actions of loving and caring for oneself. Pour tea on time, have a rest, leave the insolent boor-boss, divorce a reveler-husband and part with an arrogant, always reproaching friend or relative. Simple, internally generated actions. And even without affirmations.

I want you - Russian, Kazakh, Ukrainian, in general, a granddaughter or great-granddaughter of a Soviet grandmother - to take a worthy place in a man's heart. I want you to be loved, cherished and cherished. When you realize that this is important to you, and you begin to do something to fish out this unfortunate, but in fact precious dignity, you will begin to find worthy men around you. Men with a capital letter, some see in you the same worthy woman, without pathos and any over-amazing gestures.

They speak simply, but act generously, they treat you to the finest dinner, without a hint of bed. They ask you out on a date by looking at you as a possible bride, not a bed for one night. He will get up at night for your child and even cook dinner when you are tired, wrapped up with your baby. He will give you a romantic trip to the island and a pearl ring after 20 years of marriage. He will be faithful to you, and you know he will be with you even if you lose your memory. He is your copy, but in a man's guise. He is just as ready to strive for you, passing the most difficult-level obstacles, as you are now, fighting for men, he will also fight for you. No madness, of course. But he will tell you that he will not let you go, since you are his dream. No, if you truly love the “other”, he will not break down your door in a drunken stupor. He is a normal man, with dignity.

And the one in tights with beer is also devoid of dignity, like you, but full of conceit and spoiled by the same male girls who fought for him, scratching his enlarged lips with extended nails and tearing each other's hair extensions. And we ought to unite, embrace and take care of their own soul and life. And this one, in tights, with beer, to leave alone … with his x … conceit.

By the way, you can, if you want, find many stories of how women rebelled and ashes, like a phoenix, and found many, many good things in their lives, including beautiful men. So, my dear, grab your grandmother's dignity and take it out like a carrot from the ground … But wait, it's more like a whole treasure trove that needs to be dug up. Just open up to those people who will help you deal with your grandmother's burden. I think you will surely find those who help in this matter - online and even offline, in your city …

In the meantime, I carry out my mission - I am writing an article, a little sarcastic and irony, but more truthful, in order to actually hug all your grandmothers who suffered, just like mine, however, but not so that you suffer, but all but I think that you should eventually allow yourself, set a goal and become a HAPPY IN LOVE girl, with a royal bearing and the bearer of the great divine spirit of the universe inside you …