2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Have you ever started cleaning with a pure heart in order to find out later that cleaning the space arouses irritation inside? Annoyance over having your husband's socks not in the laundry basket, or hopelessness over the fact that the walls in your bedroom are too close together?
One Saturday morning, I found that the distance between the walls remained stable - no matter what I thought about it. I assembled the vacuum cleaner and prepared to invite cleanliness into the apartment. Getting down to cleaning, I agreed with myself that I would play Terminator: I would set a goal - to remove dust from living room No. 52; I will perform the appropriate actions - I will vacuum in every corner, removing the brush if the corners are too narrow; Well, then - although the Terminator did not do it - I will wash the auxiliary unit - fortunately, I have it with an aquafilter. However, the main goal that I drew myself with all seriousness is not to think about socks, instructions and the location of the walls.
And what do you think? Fifteen minutes later, the apartment was shining. I sat down in the middle of the temple of purity in the most wonderful mood - as I always dreamed of, imagining that clearing the space would bring me more creative and mental freedom.
The effectiveness of the action largely depends on the correct setting of the goal and its conscious implementation, I thought, crossing my legs. But it's true: the ability to create a mental projection of the desired result distinguishes humans from our animal companions. Inefficiency happens when sabotage gets in the way: and in most cases, believe me, saboteurs are our negative thoughts.
After observing yourself, you will notice how during the execution of the most elementary, mechanical tasks, uncontrollable negative thoughts invade the purity of your inner space and begin to pull you by the levers and bolts - they are so begging for attention. And pay attention: it is not socks, husbands or cluttered cabinets that annoy us - we are annoyed by the very thoughts of socks that have poured out of nowhere.
Effective action is a valuable quality of a conscious person. I repeat: in order to act effectively, it is necessary:
- Set a goal
- Take appropriate action.
But how to isolate oneself from these intrusive, uninvited guests, called thoughts, you ask?
A little analogy. Imagine a war has started and everyone needs to go out and fight. Imagine a person who has a machine gun in his hands, and here he is on the go figure out what and how to press, and what this strange pimp is responsible for. Now imagine a shooter with experience in combat training. Who is more likely to meet the challenge?
Today it is an absolute necessity to carry out work with thoughts purposefully. We have already discovered how thoughts shape the reality of each individual person. Hundreds of beliefs coexist in each of us, pushing fixed reactions to the surface.
Exercising mind training (through meditation, for example) in free, quiet time, a person gets accelerated access to pure mental space, therefore, at the moments when such space is required, the prepared mind instantly clears up the heaps of thoughts and concentrates on the task.
Another common barrier to effective action is thinking about the action, not doing it. Yes, planning and thinking through the details is important and effective. However, in reality, most people overfulfill the plan for thinking about action.
If you feel that thinking about action is violating the boundaries of what is permissible, it means that there is resistance to action inside. Resistance is subconscious, but in most cases, if you set a goal, it is easy to push it to the surface.
Common reasons for resistance to action are fear of being worse than someone else, fear of receiving disapproval, fear of losing touch with a loved one.
And more specifically? Suppose a person wants to go to university abroad. Although grades and practical skills predict a high chance of admission, a person postpones the submission of documents, arguing his action with the hope that the correct decision will catch up with him. In fact, delving into the subconscious, the hero of the situation is able to discover that his only close person and friend - his mother - will not be able to accept the move of his son. The connection with mom turns out to be much more important than education abroad. Hence the postponement of effective action.
Finally, I have noticed that postponing, or procrastination, which makes the personal effectiveness guru wrinkle their foreheads, is not some harmful mechanism through which a person destroys their optimistic prospects. What we call procrastination indicates the presence of internal resistance to action, the goal of which is a specific personal motive. This motive, like all the motives that induce us to do business, are not an enemy to us, but a defender - at the level of development of consciousness at which we are. Consciousness develops - the understanding of security and the pleasure that a person receives from life also develops.
Let's choose to expand!
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