2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If a woman lives only through logic and the head and does not know how to live with feelings and emotions, then she can never be effective.
In today's article, I want to consider 6 key secrets of personal effectiveness.
First secret. To be effective is to be yourself
This is a state that, unfortunately, not everyone comes to.
The feeling of being yourself is most often lost in childhood. Real children are usually between the ages of 2-3 years. Children still cannot learn to feel themselves and analyze their condition and needs. They are free from stereotypes and patterns. Remember the tale of the naked king? All the adults looked with interest at the nonexistent costume of the king. And only a little boy voiced what he really saw.
Parents offer their children, not always consciously, one or another model of behavior, based on their vision of the world and the role of their child in it. For the same reason, in order to live in society, we adapt in childhood, we accept templates and standards that are accepted in a given situation. We were taught to evaluate ourselves and those around us: "five" - you are great, and "two" - you are unworthy. The assessment was subject to everything - the education system, accepted moral standards, behavior in society. Therefore, children learn to focus on the outside world and impose certain masks, patterns and strategies on themselves.
However, being yourself means creating life around you, living there with pleasure and getting pleasure from it. There you are in contact with yourself, you open up. This is a state where you are always in focus on yourself. Most people focus on the outside - what they look like, what they say, what other people say about them. And you need to create your own path and move from your inner state.
Ask yourself a few questions.
- How sincere are you with yourself and do you enjoy yourself and everything that you have created around you?
- Do you say whatever you want to say? Are you experiencing your feelings?
- Do you voice your opinion if it differs from the majority?
Second secret. Being effective is knowing what you want
Man exists in various spheres of life - this is due to his nature. And in each of these areas, he has desires, aspirations and aspirations. We want to be successful in business, have an interesting hobby, build mutually beneficial relationships in the family and with others, maintain and strengthen our health. And in each of these areas we have desires and see goals.
An effective person finds his place in all areas and wants to develop them. It is important that there is a balance between the spheres of life, so that an imbalance does not occur and that certain directions do not suffer.
It would seem that what could be easier than defining your desire. But actually it is not. There are certain ways and techniques to correctly formulate and generate your goal.
The generation of desires allows you to find the place where you are comfortable. We need to discover the value of working with desires and goals and learn how to implement them. Man is made in such a way that desires come to him constantly. And it is very important from the entire list that came to mind to choose the really true ones that you want to bring to life.
Third secret. Plan your life and make your plans a reality
Many consider this element not important enough, but in vain. After all, planning helps to focus on the goal. It helps self-organization and consistency. With proper planning, we will not rush about in search of the next step, but simply follow the intended course. Then we consciously understand in which direction we are moving. Planning refers to all areas of life - family, finance, health, self-development.
After all, a person lives a multifaceted life, and in each of its areas he wants to enjoy and self-actualize. Therefore, planning is a powerful element of personal effectiveness.
What methods and techniques can you use when planning your life?
Life balance wheel
This method allows you to assess the situation and understand where the person is now. Next, we define the improvements that we want to implement. Then the result is tracked - achievements and failures. Emphasis are placed and the time frame for achieving the goal is specified. This helps to consciously see the dynamics of growth and evaluate the result. All this together allows you to maintain a balance in all areas of life.
Pyramid of logical levels
It helps to work out plans in more detail precisely at the action level. What actions need to be included in your plans to improve the final result. It helps to see the motivation for my daily actions: what I get from my actions, what is important and valuable to me. Also, this method helps to provide options if something went wrong.
Practice "Walk to Mastery"
She helps to develop her new qualities and states. And he suggests how this can be done. Bringing something new to your life requires certain skills that you may not possess.
Meditation "Ladder of Success"
It helps to see the sequential steps towards achieving the goal.
There are many other ways. Each person chooses a form of planning that is convenient for him. Someone plans every day (checklist for the day by the hour). Someone is planning a week. And some have plans for a year.
This is all very individual. Someone can cope with this difficult task on their own.
And if something does not work out for you or you are experiencing difficulties, then join the women's club with Olga Salodka and we will fulfill our dreams and goals together.
The following secrets of personal effectiveness will be discussed in the next article.
With love and care, Olga Salodkaya
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