Happiness From Nothing

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It happens that it is not so easy to get pleasure from life. Sometimes this needs to be specially learned. I studied.

First, I learned that the enjoyment of life is not about something big and flashy, like traveling or partying. Although this too. And that's not what it takes a lot of money for. The most important and good things in our life, as you know, are free. The pleasure of life can be obtained every day from a variety of small things. The main thing here is to tune in correctly.

I used to wake up in the morning, jump up and run. Now it looks something like this: I slowly open and close my eyes. I yawn. Stretching. I yawn again. I make myself comfortable, open my eyes. I hear the rumble of cars muffled by the window. I lie enjoying the silence and this hum and the blue morning light and the clear cool air, and the softness of the bed and the whiteness of the ceiling. I hear the chirping of birds, and my breath stops with happiness.

In fact, literally anything can be enjoyed.

For example from buses. I am not kidding. Once I even paid for it. My husband and I lived in Israel and went through the so-called stepwise procedure for obtaining citizenship. And at the interview for a temporary resident visa, I was asked what I like in Israel. Out of surprise, I told the truth: nature and buses. In general, I was not given a visa.

So, about the bus. When I got on an Israeli bus from the street in the hot Israeli summer, I went to heaven. Wild heat gave way to streams of cool air, for some reason there were always free seats on the bus. Climbing into the end of the bus, I flopped down on the free seat near the window, stretched my legs and began to enjoy.

I also try to find pleasure in everything, and if this does not work out, then this is a signal for me that something needs to be changed.

For example, I tried to learn English from the class sitting at the table. And I was very tedious and annoyed by everything. Then I came up with the idea of learning English from films and TV shows with subtitles. So I can do it with pleasure.

I love camping, but I don't like sleeping in a tent. It was so painful for me that I had to give up trips with more than one overnight stay, because it was beyond my strength. But somehow, on a regular outing, I was sitting in a folding chair in the middle of the forest and looking at the tent, and it dawned on me. What if the tent is big, like a small house, and there will be an inflatable mattress and a real bed in it, and there will be mesh windows in the "roof", then it will be a completely different matter! True, we have not yet purchased such a tent, but the main thing is that now it is clear where to go.

This I mean that if you take care, you can almost always find a way to live with pleasure. But for this you need, firstly, to recognize your right to pleasure. And not everyone gives it to themselves. After all, if "business is time - fun is an hour" and "I am the last letter in the alphabet", and in general you need to think first about others, and then about yourself, otherwise it is selfishness, if you need to do what is needed, and not what want, what kind of pleasure can we talk about. Probably, almost all of us were brought up in this paradigm. That is why it happens that you need to learn to live with pleasure. But the good news is, you can learn it! It happens that it is not so easy to do it yourself, because the load of attitudes absorbed from childhood interferes. And here you can use the help of a psychologist.

In general, there is happiness and it is near! And you can learn to be happy! -