"50 Shades Of Gray" - Easy Psychological Analysis

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The professional deformation does its own thing, and sometimes I watch films as a psychotherapist. Therefore, I decided to occasionally write my thoughts on some of them

Just now, my friends and I decided to watch "50 shades of gray". The main characters as role models, frankly, upset and horrified me, at the same time causing deep sadness and sympathy. They are sooo client !!!

And I sympathized with both Her and Him, because the heroine needs deep psychotherapy no less than the hero.

Now to the main characters and what happened:

She: instantly and completely falls into feelings (unfortunately, love and passion at first sight in the modern media space is presented as a standard of true love, which cannot but depress, but so many people write about this). In fact, love at first sight is often neurotic, that is, your "cockroaches" fall in love with some image they like. Neurotic love instantly captures completely, and this is its endless charm. It is a pity that it does not last long.

The heroine falls in love with a character who immediately demonstrates a variety of psychotic manifestations: an intent, unblinking, unbreakable gaze, an instant violation of ALL of her personal boundaries (which is only the unauthorized repair of her laptop).

Unfortunately, the film does not show the heroine's childhood - where it all came from. They fall in love with such characters not by chance, but with a long locomotive of developmental injuries.

He: the character "anti-dependent" - closed, defensive, not willing to appear from the vulnerable side, so as not to be wounded again. Apparently, in the past he had enough such experience. Hence all the contracts and other alienation.

What happened: at some point I had a suspicion that the film would end with a miraculous healing, when she said to him “I love you anyway, despite your perverted tastes,” and he will be cured in a miraculous way. Which, in general, is the way to get rid of addiction, but over several years of therapy or thanks to a good partner in life. You need to learn to trust and choose people to whom you can show your vulnerable part, and this is very difficult.

In the film, she provokes him so that he opens up and shows his true self. And here his conviction is confirmed - he is bad, a bastard, and so on. She hates him, although she herself provoked him into self-disclosure. Subsequently, she begins to manipulate him from the position of the victim by the fact that he allegedly offended her so much (although he warned, and she herself said: show who you are). The victim's position “I’m so unhappy because of you, I spent my whole life on you, and you…” is very convenient for manipulating the feeling of guilt and in itself is cruel towards the manipulated one.

So, the miraculous healing did not happen, and instead the heroes began to play the "Karpman triangle" - the two sequentially "change" the roles of victim-savior-persecutor. This can go on for a very long time. She will sometimes blame him (the persecutor), he will blame (the victim), then they will switch roles: for example, she will become a “rescuer” and again begin to pity him, sooner or later he will push her away again (the aggressor). Well, in general, everything will be interesting:).

"And everything will twist and everything will twist, first you will fall in love, then you will hang yourself (s)."

I heard that there will be two more episodes. Perhaps they will describe this game. The victim needs an aggressor, and the rescuer needs a victim.