2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
Parents often asked this question before, but now, while everyone voluntarily and compulsorily remains at home, it has probably become even more relevant. And after all, gradual accustoming the child to some independence is not only a matter of preserving the parents' nervous system, but also a very important task of the child's own development, one of the first steps on the path of a very difficult, but necessary process of separation - "gnawing" the "psychological umbilical cord" with the parents., taking responsibility for your life, acquiring the skills of its independent construction.
First of all, let's be realistic in this matter. Until the age of three, the child strives to constantly be with his mother (or other close adults). And this is absolutely necessary for him; keeping mom in sight, feeling her presence nearby is the most important need of the baby, satisfying this need is important for his emotional well-being and development.
But after three years, the child can already learn to play a little on his own. If it doesn't happen on its own, a little help can be done. But, of course, it is important to do it "in small steps", carefully and gradually.
Start by letting your child know that he can play his own game, separate from you. You can do it literally, say something like this: "Come on, you will roll the car, and I am picking up a pyramid next to it." When this stage of development of independent play has been mastered, try to invite your child to play while you, while still next to him in the room, do something of your own (I do not even mention that it would be better to have a book, not a phone will).
After a while, try to go further: invite the child to continue the game until you leave the room for a short time (about 5 minutes). This time can be gradually increased.
Another important area of learning to play independently is helping your child find suitable activities when he gets bored. Make a literal list of different games and activities (drawing, sculpting, lego, garage, doctor's kit …). Hang this list in the room. It would be great if the child could help make such a poster, for example, by adding their own drawings to the written components of the to-do list. You can approach this list as needed and choose what your son or daughter would prefer to do while you need to, for example, do business at work or just relax.
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