Divorce Through The Eyes Of A Man

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Divorce through the eyes of a man. For millions of years, men and women have lived together in the same society, however, they still see the world differently. They also relate in different ways to divorce, the destruction of their family. In this case, it should be noted that divorce in its modern form has existed in Russia for no more than fifty years, therefore men's traditions and psychological attitudes in this area cannot yet be considered fully formed. Nevertheless, in large part they have already taken shape. Let's look at divorce through the eyes of a man.

Men, like women, perceive divorce through the prism of thirteen circumstances. We will name them all, and then describe them in more detail. So:

13 factors for thinking about divorce through the eyes of a man:

1. The presence or absence of a new relationship partner. It is clear that if a man already has a new woman and a new love addiction (another temporary clouding of consciousness), and he suffers a divorce more easily than he would have remained in personal loneliness.
2. The nature of the relationship with the current partner with whom the person is breaking up. If at the time of filing an application for divorce, family relations are generally good, a man is more sad than if at that moment they threw plates at him, scratched his face or threw his things from the balcony.
3. The number of children married and their age. It is clear that the more children there are in a marriage and the younger they are in age, the more conscience a man experiences. The fewer children and the older they are, the less a man experiences.
4. The attitude of children to the process of parental divorce. If children strive to preserve the marriage of their mom and dad and actively ask them not to part, this cannot leave anyone indifferent. If the children are silent, or are frankly happy to part with their father (especially if he drinks, beats children and mother, screams, parasitizes, etc.), the worries of a man in connection with the separation are much less.
5. Own age. Realizing that the marital attractiveness of men remains very high up to the age of 45, men 23 - 45 years old, going through the divorce procedure, look to their own future quite optimistically. Men over 45 will think three times whether to divorce them or not …
6. Health status. It is clear that the stronger a man's health is, the more self-confident he is. If a man has some serious chronic diseases or disability, the degree of his experiences from the loss of his usual mode of life and environment can be quite high.
7. Availability of living space for further living. Being in a state of preparation for divorce, a responsible man almost always understands that the apartment should remain with the woman and his children (if the couple has children). Accordingly, if he has an alternative housing - another apartment, completing a shared, comfortable apartment for his parents, office housing, etc., the man's morale is much better than he would, after a divorce, have to wander around with friends, rent expensive housing or leave to another woman's apartment.
8. Income level. A man whose career and income level are going uphill is always in the mood for the best, so the prospect or the procedure for divorce scares him noticeably less than the man whose income was barely enough for the minimum subsistence level. Accordingly, a man with a high level of income is less likely to feel the burden of alimony and is more likely to provide substantial financial assistance to his children, even without appropriate court decisions.
9. Experience of past divorces or breakups. The situation here is quite interesting. Men who have not yet gone through a divorce are more confident in themselves, that they will survive everything without great suffering than those who have already gone through the divorce procedure once (moreover, with the presence of children) and know firsthand what mental suffering, moral emptiness and insomnia. But those men who have already gone through two divorces, more often than not, are no longer afraid of anything, which in practice leads to new marriages and divorces.
10. The attitude of your own parents and (or) friends to this divorce. If the opinion of parents or friends is significant for a man, and they all treated and relate warmly to the leaving or already past wife, then one must understand that serious moral pressure will be exerted on the man, which is unlikely to be comfortable for him.
11. The number of pleasant or unpleasant memories of the ending marriage. If most of the time that a given marriage exists between spouses is associated with mental, everyday, material and intimate comfort, then there will be much more worries from divorce. If the couple's discomfort before divorce has lasted for many years, the joy of getting rid of the problem partner will outweigh the sadness of the breakup.
12. Own intimate activity. It has been noticed that intimately active people experience divorce more emotionally, but also … more quickly. They quickly enter into new relationships, the freshness and novelty of which quickly leads to a normal state (or close to normal). Intimate passive people experience a little less vividly, but a longer period. Because, their state of loneliness can last for months and years. And their loyalty to the past partner has nothing to do with it: everything is determined by innate temperament.

13. A general deterioration or improvement in one's life in general after a divorce. A person's thinking always lags a little behind the events of life. Therefore, a real assessment of the divorce that has taken place begins to be made by a man only two or three months later, or even a year after the divorce. And here is the most important thing: If, within a period of about a year after the divorce, a man notices a clear improvement in his life in everyday, mental, intimate comfort, his financial situation will not worsen, the new partner will not interfere with his communication with children and will be ready to give birth to joint children, such a man will survive the divorce without repenting for his deed. If, within a period of about a year after the divorce, a man notices a clear deterioration in his life in everyday, mental, intimate comfort, his financial situation deteriorates, a new partner will interfere with his communication with children, will not want to give birth to joint children, such a man is most likely, will experience difficult experiences, will repent of what he has done and … will try to restore relations with his ex-wife.

In general, the degree of a man's feelings about divorce will depend on the totality of all of the above 13 factors. The less the divorce worsened a man's life, the easier it is for him to go through everything. The more he worsened, the more it will hurt him. Now the main thing. Actually,

In case of divorce from the spouse who bore him children, a man always loses more than a woman.

Only he does not always understand it in time.

After all, the most important thing that a man always loses during a divorce is not an apartment and a car at all, but the shine of happiness in the eyes of his own child. Alas: in this sense, men are always a little slow-witted. Unlike women, who are highly likely to calculate the consequences of divorce, men do it extremely badly. As a result, there is a psychological imbalance in male and female behavior. A woman suffers from a divorce even before it occurs, but after two or three months she gathers her will into a fist and begins to live on. A man lives in the illusion of freedom during a divorce, and after a while begins to suffer mentally. And when a man, in the peak of suffering, comes to his ex-wife "confessing", having already suffered and wept all the tears, more often than not, she no longer accepts him. As a result, many men who initiated divorces rush back and forth, end up in hospitals with strokes and heart attacks, or drink too much.

By and large, everything can be expressed like this: the entire degree of a man's experiences and his fate after a divorce does not depend at all on himself and not even on his ex-wife, but on the behavior and sanity of his new woman. If she turns out to be on top, then in contrast, his past marriage, even generally good, will be assessed with a minus sign. And there will be less suffering from divorce. If she turns out to be a narrow-minded and greedy "saw", then in contrast, his past marriage, even improperly arranged, will seem to him the best years of his life. These are the men. So they are dependent on women. After all, leaving a woman, a man, all the same … goes to a woman. And a woman, leaving a man, can stay with her children. Or to begin with, or forever. Divorce through the eyes of a man - dependence on one woman changes to dependence on another woman.

I hope that after reading this article "Divorce through the eyes of a man" - men will think a lot. And women too …

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