2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I often hear client stories about psychoanalysis or psychoanalytic therapy infuriating them. I don’t know if this happens in other methods, since I have experience of long-term therapy (my own and other people’s) only in analysis.
But I readily trust psychoanalytic clients.
The main complaints about the method:
- I don't understand the technique
- my therapist is a biscuit
- How are my mom and dad related to the current situation in life?
- we walk in circles and talk in different words about the same thing
- how long will it still last
Psychoanalysis is indeed quite specific both in its methodology and in the interaction of the therapist and the client. Some say that "psychoanalysis is for the advanced."
Not wanting to brag, I will say that sometimes it seems so to me. Because it is rather difficult to understand what is happening in psychoanalytic therapy without psychological knowledge.
You can read a book about how psychoanalysis works, but are there many who will do it on purpose?
And the specificity of analysis lies precisely in the fact that the analyst does nothing that is not prescribed by the method. And the method is not prescribed to explain how the method works.
The analyst will return your question to you and answer: how do you imagine the method work?
Really looks like a vicious circle, recursion.
Moreover, the deplorable situation with the status and popularity of psychology and psychotherapy in our country reflects that people, choosing a therapist for themselves, have no idea either about the method or about the process that awaits them.
And in the professional environment, that is, among analysts, there is an attitude that it is not the therapist's job to explain the method to the client. It is the responsibility of the client to know where he is going, what he is signing up for and what will happen to him.
A person in his right mind will ask: and what am I doing in this strange method?
The analysis is really not suitable for everyone and not for all requests. First, it is long term therapy. And all long-term therapies are aimed at profoundly changing the personality. I can call analysis a real cure. This is not a quick, non-directive method that will not help solve the problem here and now.
For such results, they go to short-term therapy.
And the second, very important difference between the analysis and other long-term therapies, is that it is not contact therapy. Treatment does not happen because a sympathetic therapist slaps you on the shoulder. The therapist collects your anamnesis, analyzes it and gives it back in a revised form.
And it takes a very long time to collect the entire anamnesis. And all this time, the untrained client experiences frustration that the therapist does not slap him on the shoulder and does not wipe away his tears.
And righteously asks the question: what is happening here in general? why the hell am I paying money and nothing changes?
It is the client's responsibility to clarify with himself what he wants before starting therapy. Does he need advice, quickly solve some problem, or is he determined to radically change, to understand the deep causes of his unhappiness?
But this work is greatly hampered by the fact that the population is very poorly aware of how to look for a psychologist, what psychologist and what method. Therefore, there are many questions, a lot of dissatisfaction.
We will work on it!
I call upon therapists, psychologists and consultants, taking into account the situation, to explain to the client what will happen to him in order to facilitate his entry into treatment and make the treatment not so difficult.
Of course, Freud will threaten him with a fist from the sky for this, but Freud has been dead for almost a hundred years, and during this time, especially in the modern interpretation, psychoanalysis has become very liberalized and became more human.
Therefore, if one of my colleagues asks, what about the holy transference, but what about the neutrality of the therapist, I will answer: the safety of my client (in the broadest sense, mental, including) is more dear to me than the instructions of the manual.
If you, dear readers, have a question about how to choose a therapy and a psychologist, I will be happy to answer.
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