2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One of the old, traditional, patriarchal accusations of a woman, polished to a shine, sounds like this: on maternity leave, a woman sinks spiritually and physically.
From a cheerful, sociable, slender photograph she turns into an animal with the figure of a cow and a cow's intellect, and her husband - of course, slender, graceful and highly intelligent - inevitably loses interest in her. While he is constantly growing in the office, getting smarter before our eyes, the wife also continuously grows dumb in the eternal care of the cub.
"They have nothing more to talk about," and not only to talk. As a result, the husband has a mistress - "but can you blame him?
"In order to avoid a tragic ending, a woman is advised to show the miracles of home balancing act, at any cost preserving the" presentation "and the proper intellectual level." Otherwise, she will leave and she will be right."
Using this approach as an example, one can clearly see how the attitude to a person as a free gadget differs from the attitude to a person as a person.
See for yourself.
Let's say two friends are starting a joint business - a mini-diner by the parking lot, hot dogs to go.
One took over the preparation and sale of hot dogs, the other - the purchase of food, accounting, advertising, "roof", etc.
It is clear that the partner who rivets hot dogs for 12 hours a day, sitting in a small and stuffy room, by the end of the shift looks, to put it mildly, shitty, and is not very capable of talking - but the second partner would not even think of presenting him to him some claims like "you used to be such a joker, but now you sit like a stump." On the contrary, he feels grateful, because understands: if the partner had not taken on a heavier burden, their business would not have taken place - they will not pull the salary of an employee.
If the partner leaves, everything will collapse. And therefore, at least once a week, he will rivet hot dogs himself, giving his partner the opportunity to relax. "This is our business. This is our common cause."
And now the situation is different. A person got an interesting gadget for free (exactly for free).
For two years it worked flawlessly, not a single button jammed, and then suddenly it began to glitch, freeze and malfunction. The gadget no longer brings the same pleasure.
Does the person feel grateful? Well, what are you, what gratitude - this is a thing.
A thing must perform its functions, otherwise why is it needed? A bad thing is annoying.
What does it mean: after a while it will work as before? Should I sit and wait? Oh, her nafig.
And the thing is thrown away, all the more easily because there are a lot of other free gadgets around. (Paradoxically, a person who bought a gadget for a lot of money will treat it more reverently, so to speak: the toad will strangle to throw a large sum in the trash. But if the upgrade turns out to be unprofitable, he will throw it away anyway).
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