Not A Cause For Concern

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In everyone's life, there are times when it seems that you are not good enough. Another diploma, a plump bank account, an advanced degree, a new role, a higher class car, a bigger house - each has its own goal, its own criterion of success, and its own values. But everyone has the same fear - the fear of failure.

We are all afraid of "not conforming." Someone is worried about the expectations of parents, someone is guided by the opinion of a partner, but the hardest thing is when you do not live up to your own standards. After all, we are our strictest critics.

Our anxiety manifests itself in different ways. Someone thinks that they need to work harder, learn more, “grow as a person”. Someone bets on appearance - chest, lips, teeth - there is no limit to perfection. Some are embraced by insane health care - healthy lifestyle, fitness, detox. And someone, on the contrary, scores on everything that seemed important before, and in an attempt to downshifting goes in search of his real self.

Whichever you choose, any excessive infatuation signals an increased level of anxiety. What does "excessive" mean? Difficult question. Perhaps a good judging criterion would be the amount of time you spend THINKING about your hobby. Not on the hobby itself, but on the thought of it: “you need to count the calories, you can't eat this roll, you must definitely buy hard pasta, I can't lie down - I need to go for a run”. When something becomes a way of life, skills are automated. We eat, walk, go to the gym, read new books, chat with friends, without agonizing about these activities. If you spend a disproportionate amount of time thinking, planning, or speculating about the benefits of an action, this may be a sign of increased anxiety.

Anxiety isn't just an annoying habit. She's dangerous. Constant anxiety can cause digestive problems, nausea, itching, sleep disturbances, and as a result, irritability, increased fatigue and an inability to think rationally. In addition, any stress is accompanied by the release of cortisol. And this insidious hormone often leads to weight gain - the very case when you get fat due to the fact that you are trying hard to lose weight.

What can be done? Practical recommendations include a balanced lifestyle: good sleep, limiting alcohol consumption (coffee and tea also inhibit the nervous system), quitting smoking, varied and regular meals, light physical activity and fresh air.

From the advice of a psychologist - to relax. True, the best way to deal with anxiety is to love yourself in all your imperfections. Ask yourself, what do you really want? It is possible that you already have everything you need to be happy.

If you still fall short of your own standards, think about how real your expectations are, and what you can change on your own. Do not hope for a sudden marriage, inheritance, or winning the lottery. What can you do yourself? Write down your goals and possible ways to achieve them. A rational approach will do much more good than self-flagellation.

But still ask yourself, do you really need this certificate, or will a new book on the couch with a cat bring more joy? Is it true that new breasts will make you happier, or is it your partner's teenage fantasies? Do you or your mom need you to definitely spend the weekend at the dacha planting tomatoes? If the answer is yes, it will make me happier, congratulations, you are on the right track. And if you live in constant fear of not meeting other people's expectations - forget it. True, constant anxiety is much more harmful than one eaten bun. Good luck!