Good Girls Go To Heaven, Bad Girls Go Wherever They Want

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The division into "bad" and "good" is familiar to us from childhood. Throughout our lives, we form our own "self-image" under the influence of close environment, culture, social stereotypes and expectations. Sometimes this image coincides with the external image, sometimes it does not. The older we are, the more complex and multifaceted it is

Almost any woman can easily find 10-20 different adjectives to describe who she is. But if you ask a direct and very simple question: "Are you a good girl or a bad one?" - many will think for a second, grin at something inside themselves and, most likely, will choose one of two options.

What do these concepts include? Each particular woman has her own set of qualities. As well as the attitude towards them. Some are proud of their "goodness" or "badness"; someone suffers from her all the time and is ashamed of her.

And only a few of us will not answer this simple question unequivocally.

When your choice is limited to two opposite behaviors, one of which was instilled in you from childhood, and the second is not correct, it is the same as if all over the world only white and black clothes were sold. And you definitely need to choose - what do you wear all your life: white or black? Boring and ridiculous, right?

After all, we know that there is blue, red, green, mint, fuchsia, ivory and marsala. At worst, we've heard about 50 shades of gray! And there is so much more to it than just black and white

“I have long wanted to leave my parents, but I’m afraid of offending them. They love me so much."

“I will never forgive my husband for treason. I still love him, but proud women do not forgive cheating."

- “I do not know how to conflict and defend myself. Those around me are using me, but I can't help it. Better this way than turn away from me completely."

“I want him to marry me. He has been promising to divorce for the third year already, he says that he cannot live without me. How long will I have to wait?"

Sometimes, in order to get what you never had, you need to start doing what you have never done. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?" And then answer the next question: "What am I willing to pay for this?" There is one more control question: "What is the benefit of my present current position?"

If you do not know how to defend your interests, but want to advance in your career, you need to get acquainted with your aggression, which, of course, you have, is simply hidden away. Get to know, make friends and learn to use her to your advantage. Say goodbye to your beloved safe role of the always “good” compliant person.

You have a hot temper, you work hard, you are not at home, and even your patient husband went to the left? Well, finding a balance between work and family, learning to be softer and more attentive to your husband is painstaking work.

Sounds scary, but only at first. It's like exercising your muscles in the gym. When you come there for the first time, it seems that a good figure is not yours. At first, the work is slow and painful. Muscles that you never knew existed ache between workouts. This must be endured and not retreated. After a while, workouts even begin to bring pleasure. You pull in, and then suddenly you clearly notice the changes in the mirror.

So it is with your "not pumped" personality traits. If you strengthen them and learn to rely on them, you may stop describing your character unambiguously in black or white. It will be more difficult to determine whether you are "good" or "bad". But there will be a place for shades, halftones and bright colors.