2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The plot of a book or film lives or dies, depending on whether it can hook the viewer and interest him. Such a hook necessarily presupposes a conflict, and having fallen into this hook, we keep our attention on how and why the conflict is resolved. Each of us is also a scriptwriter in our head. And in our scenarios, the hook means that we are possessed by a harmful emotion, thought, or behavior.
The human brain is a thought-generating machine (essence). The process of comprehension consists in the fact that everything seen, heard, certified is organized into a narrative: “This is me Dmitry, I wake up. I need to get up and make breakfast, then get ready for the appointments. This is what I do. I am a psychotherapist and I accept people trying to help them. The narrative achieves its goal: we tell ourselves such stories to organize our experience and be conscious.
The problem is that we do not perceive everything quite correctly. In our scripts, we are fairly free to behave with the truth. We accept these compelling self-reports without question, as if it is the truth and nothing but the truth. We believe in these fairy tales and enable this mental construct, which appeared 30-40 years ago and has never been objectively verified, to represent the entire totality of our life. An example is the basic concept "I'm OK if …"
On a typical day, most of us speak about 16,000 words. But our thoughts - our inner voice - produce many more words. This voice of consciousness is a silent but indefatigable balabol that secretly and indefatigably loads us with observations, comments and analysis. This restless voice of the professor of literature has been called an unreliable storyteller. Our inner storyteller may be biased, misguided, or deliberately self-justifying and deceiving.
We often accept claims that come from this inexhaustible source of gossip and take them as real facts. Although in reality it is a complex jumble of evaluations and judgments, reinforced by emotions. Through this reflectiveness of our reactions, getting hooked becomes almost inevitable.
You are hooked as soon as you start taking thoughts as facts. From this, you begin to avoid situations that cause such thoughts. Or you persistently force yourself to do what you are afraid of, even if the hook prompts you to action, and not something valuable to you. All this internal chatter is not only misleading, but also exhausting. It drains important mental resources that could be better used.
The vibrant, colorful nature of our cognitive process mingles with and amplified by emotion - an evolutionary adaptation that served well when we were threatened by predators and neighboring tribes. In the face of the threat of the enemy, an ordinary hunter-gatherer could not afford to waste time on abstractions like: “I am being threatened. How can I evaluate the existing options? To survive, it was necessary to grasp the meaning automatically lead to a predicted response. However, this incredible mixing mechanism prepares us for the hook …
To be continued…
The article appeared thanks to the book "Emotional Agility" by Susan David
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