May I Pray For You?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I often meet people who are somehow lost. And they look for themselves in every possible way: they read Castaneda, travel, go to a tarot reader, do yoga, cross the oceans, attend retreats, run.

People often experience problems with self-awareness, assuming that something is wrong with them, they are afraid to talk about it, while forming an image for others that “everything is fine” in order to remain understandable and convertible. At the same time, the separation from one's true experiences and the external image only makes the center of suffering flare up more and more.

To feel something and to fence off from it in fear of not being accepted and not understood by others is a big mistake, the root of which is betrayal of oneself. The ability to endure yourself in your manifestations and not avoid it is something that can and should be learned.

Recently, a man told me about his attempts to close his eyes and just imagine himself standing upright. But he didn't succeed. In his view, he was crimson, and he could not force his brain to obey. And then he said that he was afraid to tell someone about it, because he could be mistaken for a madman.

And what is even more curious in this whole scheme, it is the one who treats himself this way, feeling a permanent chill from the key on his chest leading to the hidden doors, looks at others with apprehension. He is so scared to see himself somehow different that he hysterically begins to look around for a stable someone, leaning on whom he can calm down at least for a while.

A person's desire to see some kind of image in another is associated with his need to relieve his vital anxiety and realize his latent needs in a strong parent. It is calm under the wing of the strong.

People have learned to somehow calm down, at least for a certain period of time, about the invented projected idol. Approaching a little closer to a real person, the inventor frowns, noticing cracks. And again there is a meaning in life: to devalue and go to look for a new statuette.

It seems like it is very difficult for people to be ordinary people.

Once I corresponded with a man, and he asked, well, tell us about yourself, you must be very interesting. I replied that I was ordinary. "And I thought you were different …". The less someone thinks of something superfluous about themselves and those around them, forming projections, the closer to reality, the less the abyss into which to fall.

Now I feel calm even with the standard entry into the territory of my profession: "Well, you are a psychologist, you should understand everything, because you work with people." I do not pretend to be enlightened in the final instance, and to be looked at as the Virgin Mary, I am an ordinary person with ordinary problems, searches, feelings, desires and work on myself, and that is why it is easier for me to understand other ordinary people.