2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do a little exercise. Choose an aspect of yourself that you do not really like about yourself or with which you have to fool around right now. For example, "I am dumb", "nobody loves me" or "I will fail this project." Pick a phrase and say it ten times. Now say it in reverse order or with a different sequence of words.
You will see that meaningful and loud sound turns into something distant, devoid of power, a little funny. Now these words do not wrap you around, and you do not perceive the world from the position of negative thought. Rather, you are looking at it. You have created a space between the thinker and the thought.
This room for maneuver gives you a choice. You begin to treat thoughts as thoughts - and nothing more - and not as directives to be followed or tormented by them. For example, you might agree with your sweet tooth, pay attention to the thought “I want this,” and decide not to touch the sweet. Note that you are not ignoring, denying, or hiding a thought, emotion, or desire. You notice with interest her and the information provided to her, but do not give her the reins.
Thoughts and emotions contain information, not directions. We will work with some information, designate the other as requiring tracking, and some as absurdity to mislead us.
Emotional dexterity means, even with a certain amount of disturbing thoughts, the ability to act according to your ideas about life. This is what it means to go beyond the boundaries and get off the emotional hook.
Beyond the Boundary Methods
- Thinking process. Pay attention to the fact that this process is long and its duration will increase. Absolute statements based on old stories ("I can't write articles" or "I can't build relationships") are just history. This is not your destiny.
- Become contradictory. There are probably paradoxes in your life that you can ponder over: you can love and hate your hometown, your family, your own body. You may feel like the victim and culprit in the breakup. Embracing and accepting these perceived contradictions increases your tolerance for uncertainty.
- Laugh. Humor can be transcendental because it helps you see new opportunities. If you do not use humor to mask real pain, then perhaps some kind of laugh about you or circumstances will help you accept and then distance yourself from this pain.
- Change your perspective on business. Try to look at your problem with someone else's eyes - maybe a parent, a child, a friend, the wisest person on earth.
- Identify exactly what needs to be changed. Once you get hooked, identify the thought that led to it (just a thought) and / or emotion (just an emotion). This can be done using the phrases "I think that …" or "I feel that …". Remember that you do not have to look at the situation from the point of view of this thought or emotion, much less need to act under their influence.
- Talk about yourself in the third person of the single number. This will give you the opportunity to step over your egocentric gaze and adjust your reaction.
The article appeared thanks to the book "Emotional Agility" by Susan David
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