Love Is Born In Freedom And When This Freedom Is Encroached Upon, It Begins To Disappear

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In mature relationships, people are independent from each other, they are not jealous, they do not use a partner to satisfy their needs. Love brings them a sense of satisfaction and a sense of harmony in their lives. She has little anxiety and hostility, despite the fact that she can make you worry about another person. Partners try to help each other, they are generous and caring.

Mature love says: "I am with you because I love you and I want to be with you, although I can live without you." In a codependent relationship, a person is focused on love-deal, love-exploitation. He cannot give anything without asking for something in return. Having given away, he feels used, deceived, deprived. A mature person, giving, expresses strength, abundance, she feels pleasure, and this is exactly what is the compensation for all costs. A mature person respects his partner, his psychological boundaries and his territory. After all, love is born in freedom and when this freedom is encroached upon, it begins to disappear. Love is not static. This is a process that cannot be mothballed. Love takes on new outlines every moment, it is performed daily. And we can only accept it and rejoice in it.

Mature love and responsibility are best friends. We and ONLY we are responsible for the choice of a partner, for our reactions to a partner, for our behavior. For some people, responsibility means guilt, but we are not to blame for anyone and no one is to blame for us. We are responsible only for ourselves, but it is also important that we are responsible to ourselves. But we are not responsible for the reaction of others to our actions and we ourselves are responsible for our reactions to the actions of others. For example, if you don't do what you need out of fear of upsetting your partner, that's your problem, not his. If you are afraid of losing a partner who does not want to reckon with you and therefore neglect yourself - this is your problem, not his. If doing something for yourself, you feel guilty because of your partner's dissatisfaction, then guilt is your problem, his dissatisfaction is his problem.

Mature love is the love of individuals whose I does not need to be filled at the expense of a partner. And there is no need to conquer someone else's territory, since you have your own internal "spaces" filled with resources. They coordinate well with real life needs. A partner for a mature person is free, joyful and generous communication, not related to the need for survival.

Mature relationships are relationships of people who, despite the fact that they are important to each other, that complement each other, remain integral individuals, capable of developing, growing and changing in relationships freely, they have internal resources that are independent of their partner. creative relationship is necessary to get rid of fear, guilt, shame, which were instilled in childhood. As long as there is fear, neither man nor woman will be able to start a new creative process. More often, their relationship resembles negotiations between two merchants, while discussing something can only be done in an atmosphere of trust and frankness, in the absence of prohibitions. Ideally, mature men and women are not united by opposites; they are attracted to each other by their uniting humanity. And this does not exclude sexual desire. And infantile projections lead to a dictatorship in relationships. And while men and women are in captivity of the energy of projections, they are deprived of individual freedom and prevent the manifestation of this freedom among others. And to be psychologically free means to trust your inner world, to be responsible for your strength and weakness, for conscious love for yourself, and therefore for the ability to love others.

Realizing these processes, transformation takes place. Transformation brings energy out of the unconscious and directs it into consciousness, which strengthens the Ego. Makes you more confident, calmer, more responsible and brings freedom of choice. Which is very important for building strong, long-term and happy relationships. Since you went off the rails of your script programmed in childhood. And you can choose for yourself what will bring you satisfaction.

When each of us takes responsibility for our spiritual growth and the upbringing of our souls, we are born on a psychological level for a new life. And the science of the birth of the soul is called psychology. And without an understanding of psychological processes, it is difficult to understand your inner life, it can even be so frightening that we can feel fear of the depths of our soul.

Love each other!