2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When you get tired of the constant “all by yourself”, there is a great temptation to fall into the arms of a “strong man”. It seems that now a certain "he" will come and save: he will cover from troubles and hardships, solve all problems, scare enemies and charm friends. And you, at last, will be a girl who does not want to decide anything, but wants "a little dress and little hands."
And he really comes to your call. For him alone, this is the call of the victim. And it is not a knight who comes to him, ready for exploits in the name of a beautiful lady, but a predator in search of prey. He is looking for a beautiful and strong - to break, tender and naive - to control, daring and bold - to make it interesting to play.
But you want the knight in shining armor so badly that you see him in all the riders passing by. You've already thought of everything. You don't even need to deceive - you will do everything yourself. And he, with the ease of a true manipulator, will fit into an invented scenario and try on any of the roles you have prepared. It's even easier for him. Therefore, while you are walking through the woods in pink glasses and a T-shirt with the words "dreams come true", you are already being eaten.
Do you want a candy-bouquet period - please. You consider yourself a man of business, to whom romance is alien - of course. The predator is flexible and plastic, because inside it is empty. He is a vessel filled with your expectations. Why would he? He is attracted by your light, because he does not have his own. He feeds on your emotions, because he doesn't have his own. He realizes his needs at the expense of your capabilities. He's a parasite taking your life for himself. His injury requires sacrifice. And your weak points are perfect for this purpose.
He will become your "protector" and, together with enemies, will scare away your friends. By "solving" your problems, he will begin to completely control your actions. Surrounding you with "care", he will turn an adult capable person into a weak-willed doll. By “helping” you with money, he will only tighten another loop around your neck.
At some point, your usual social circle will dissolve without a trace. His gifts will become handouts. Your opinion will cease to be important, and everything that pleased you will seem colorless. You will look for the former in him - caring and loving, and you will stumble upon the irritated and dissatisfied. The masks have been dropped, gentlemen. The game started.
At some point you will wake up and try to move, but you will not be able to. And in response to your indignation, he will shrug his shoulders in surprise: "What a whim - isn't that what you wanted." You will be guilty of everything and always wrong, in the mirror you will see an emaciated loser, shuddering from his own shadow. He, like a drug, will destroy you from the inside, then attracting, then repelling, playing with your mind and trying your nerves for strength.
Sorry, but this is not a normal relationship. What he does "for you" is nothing more than an illusion. People like him do not know how to give. Everything he does, he does for himself. You are just food. Live canned food. And when your nutritional value is depleted, he will throw you away as unnecessary trash and, putting on a fresh mask, will go in search of a new victim.
It's good if you can piece yourself together. It will be good if in your life there are those who remember you the old one. It's good if you ask for help in time. It’s bad if you don’t understand anything and try to “return, save and prove”. Everybody has moments of weakness - believe me, I know. But no one will live your life for you - the one it is: with problems, ups and downs, joys and sorrows. If you give your life to someone at the mercy, do not be surprised that you yourself will be left with only an empty shell without color, taste and smell.
I'm sorry, I won't console you. Only you can help yourself. How? Without shifting responsibility for your life to others. It is with this that the call of the victim begins, to which the predator inevitably comes.
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