When Looking For Big Love (Hellinger's Constellation)

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sometimes it's hard to meet your love. All relationships seem superficial, and feelings are not "real" enough. Years pass in search of Big Love. The constellation helps to shorten this process

A young attractive woman came to the constellation, let's call her conditionally Olya. She was not married, no children. Men pay attention to her, but Olya is looking for Big Love. And everything cannot be found, the problem is this. She spoke with such longing in her voice that my heart ached, and I did not ask any more questions. She offered to choose two deputies from the hall, for herself and for the figure "Big Love". She chose a man as the second deputy. He was at the constellations for the first time and immediately warned that he did not believe "in any such things" and came just to see. I had concerns. But the client chooses the people he wants for his arrangement, I have no right to dictate. The arrangement has begun. The figure of Olya stood at one end of the hall, and the figure of "Big Love" at the opposite. Olya's deputy looked at the man, but said that she barely saw him, as at a very great distance. The man did not look at her at all. His gaze jumped from place to place and it seemed that he was looking for someone. I asked him about it. "I'm looking? Although, probably yes. I think there must be some woman here." I choose a woman from the audience and put her in the place where he waved his hand. The man looks at her without stopping, "Yes, so." The woman on the contrary pays no attention to him. I ask her. "I don't want to look at him. I know he's here. But I won't. He left me." I turn to the man - "Have you left her?" He looks at me as if I was crazy, a man for the first time in constellations:-) Returning to the woman - "Try to look at him." She cannot be persuaded, "Why should I look at him? In general, it seems to me that I am married and have a child." I give her "husband" and "child" from the audience. She takes her husband by the arm. Then I notice that the figure of the first man somehow subsided and he was holding his chest with his hands. "What? What's wrong with you?" - "Nothing, well, my chest hurts a little." "How does it hurt? How does your heart hurt?" - I continue to pester the newbie. His expression suddenly changes, he looks at me with surprised eyes and mouth … at such moments they say "jaw dropped")) "What's wrong with you? Pulls, cuts, whines ?? How it hurts ???". He doesn't believe his own words - "It looks like a bayonet." He speaks in a completely different voice. And his face is no longer surprised, serious and focused. "Bayonet from a rifle. Cold blade, like it came in here" - he points to his chest. The woman turns, "So you didn't leave me?" He looks at her, I suggest the words, "I was killed." He sharply straightens up - "No! I died. I died defending the Motherland." It must have been an officer. I saw such a straight back and a high chin in the film about the Civil War. But there is no more room for my questions and guesses. The woman throws herself on his neck in tears. I don't know if he had tears, but something was happening between them. And then they stood side by side, holding hands. I tried to put the figures according to the tribal order - first the deceased man (apparently her first love), then the woman, then her husband. But all three figures were indignant and stood in a different order - first the husband, then she, then the deceased man. So, she was still married when she met her great love. There was also a child, maybe from him. But the figure of the child does not confirm my hypothesis, immediately and unequivocally sitting down in front of her husband and woman. The client was crying and trying to say something. I interrupted her. This is the experience of her ancestral system, let it remain in her heart.

It often happens that a person runs after the ghost of great-grandmother's love and of course cannot find it in this life. The constellation puts everything in its place, ending a long-gone relationship, and thereby frees the client from generic weaves. We get the opportunity to live our own life and already find our love in it.

Six months later, I met a mutual friend. It turns out that Olya met her great love, she is very happy. "Wow, what a result of the arrangement!" - admired a friend. "What constellation? Oh yes, I remembered, I went to the constellation. But what does the constellation have to do with it?" This also happens:-) It's nice when everything goes well for a person, and for whatever reason, it doesn't matter anymore.

Did this story actually take place in the Olin family? Could it be just a whimsical collective fantasy of deputies? Do not know. What's the difference? The main thing is the result.