Are You Looking For The Reasons For Loneliness There Or Hello Favorite Rake

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Have you ever wondered why you are alone? Or, why do those women who, in your opinion, lose to you in many ways, have harmoniously developing relationships, but you do not? Why they are loved and appreciated, and you, exerting so much effort, are still on the sidelines with a handkerchief in your hands, as in the song of the same name. I think many women have asked themselves these questions at least once in their lives.

In this article I want to talk about the main reasons that spoil the life of many women, complicate, or even make it impossible to have a relationship with a man. About those women who are worthy of the best men, but are content with what they have, consoling themselves with general phrases from the series: fish for fishlessness and cancer.

Energy, and again energy, all fashion magazines and books on self-development are full of conversations about her dear. And after all, scientists and researchers are right, who long ago proved that energy moves everything, including our life. How does this happen from the point of view of psychology? Take a woman who is terrified of being alone, especially if she is 25 or older. Society and relatives add fuel to the fire, well, when, when will you get married, and where are the grandchildren? You have to give birth, then it will be too late. From such pressure, even the most inveterate career women begin to go crazy and take other people's needs for their own. Until society catches them by surprise, and they follow the call of their hearts. And then everything happens like a book. We abandon everything and set off in search of that very husband and father of children whom we urgently need to give birth, otherwise it will be too late.

Now imagine two jugs, both very, very beautiful. A wanderer is walking along the street, he is tired, because he walked a lot, worked and in every possible way showed himself as a man. This means that he wasted a huge energy resource. And the wanderer sees two beautiful jugs in front of him, and how can he choose a jug that he can take with him? His choice will be very simple. No matter how charming, painted and functionally modern the jug is, the wanderer will choose for life one that is already filled and will be able to fill it.

I said “choose for life” precisely because the woman, the female energy, is the source of life. And if there is a mess and confusion in a woman's unconscious, it means that she will spend all her strength and energy on destructive manifestations of her feelings and emotions, such as fears, resentments, claims, distrust, anger, demands, whims and tantrums. All this devastates the woman. She can be the best hostess in the world, an excellent cook and a fantastic mistress, all this will not help her find happiness. Because, firstly, she is looking for him outside, that is, in a man. And secondly, everything that she so wants to meet in him is not in herself. And if not, then she will be nothing more than a recipient (vampire), constantly seeking and demanding love, attention, which, in her opinion, all men owe her a lot.

But, everything is not so simple, dear ladies. Because nature has not deprived men either with intuition, or, if you like, with a sixth sense. And even if at a conscious level a strong and realized, and most importantly, a self-sufficient man pays attention to such a diligent girl, he will soon disappear like the stars at dawn. Because you can't argue with intuition, and men sometimes trust her more than women. Mother Nature taught us to anticipate danger, and a recipient woman is a huge danger for any man, because she only takes and it is always not enough for her. Although, of course, there is the illusion of a huge return on her part - borscht, pies, cleaning and sexy lingerie, "Yes, I do everything for him, so long as he is satisfied, what else does he need?" Such phrases can often be heard from women who are unlucky. But I'm talking about inner emptiness (not to confuse fullness with erudition).

Let me explain what I mean: A woman is the Sun, she always shines, everyone wants to be with her, there is always little of her, and most importantly, everyone around her is warm and good. After talking with her, you get the feeling that you have drunk an energy drink, enthusiasm wakes up in you, and your mood soars to heaven. I call these women "Sunshine" precisely because they are warm and warming, they are filled so that their light is enough to illuminate the whole city in pitch darkness. Can you imagine these women frantically waiting for a call from a man, jealously asking where he was, or maybe telling a man about his debts in relation to them? Of course not, but do you know why? Because they don't need a battery outside, or in someone else. They have it inside them, and not because they were so lucky and they were born that way, although someone was lucky. For most, this is the result of hard work on oneself not on the question of: How to get married quickly? How to meet the man of your dreams? What to do to make men go crazy with you and all other literature, thanks to which people earn good money on you. Notice how much focus women seekers have on men, and how little, or none, focus on themselves and their needs. And when such a woman meets a man, she immediately forgets about sleep, food, communication with friends and devotes all her free time to him alone, because she has been waiting for him for so long. And behind this there is still an unconscious need for that love, affection and attention, which, for one reason or another, our parents did not give us. But due to the fact that codependent women are used to deserving love, everything happens like in a psychology textbook. Do not be intimidated by the word "codependent", it is fixable. And codependents because the whole focus of attention is directed to the other person, which by itself is far from the norm for the healthy development of the individual. Efforts begin and 100% investing all their resources (strength, time, enthusiasm, energy) in the long-awaited man. And then, the corresponding requirements for the repayment of debts.

Unlike codependents, Sun Women do not change their lives, habits and meetings with friends, even for the sake of the most golden man. Because if he is so good, then he will understand that he is next to a woman who respects and values herself, and a self-sufficient woman has her own needs and desires, and can satisfy them herself. And also because she does not have problems with self-esteem, knowing full well that she does not need to deserve love and a good assessment at all. And she needs a man in order to exchange energy, that is, to enjoy communication and relationships. But at the same time, do not be dependent on this person, when, in his absence, all thoughts are only about him and about nothing else. You can’t eat, you can’t work, you can also relax thoughts as fetters, etc. And only such a Sun Woman is full, she does not look for a donor, she knows how to accumulate love, joy, pleasure in herself. She feels good alone with herself, so anyone is good with her. And if from thoughts of loneliness, that is, about solitude with oneself trembling in the knees, will it be so good?

Do you want to change this? Then stop doing the same actions and wait for a different result! Stop looking for magic pills that will change your life in one second. Stop lying to yourself that after reading the book, as after several sessions with a professional psychologist, you suddenly realize everything and your life will one day become the embodiment of all your dreams. You can go to psychics as much as you like and pay them money for tasty promises and hopes, which in fact is a magic pill, because you do not make efforts to your own changes. You can also complain as much as you like about fate, about the fact that mom gave birth on Monday, dad did not bring up like that, in the district, in the city, in the country you were born in the wrong country, your hair color is not the same, your waist is not that, and in general you have strength no, or something else is not there and not right. Excuses and reasons why not, why it does not work, you can write here before the second coming. Only the longer you are with this kind of thinking, the further you are from your goals and desires. And the deeper you go into a vicious circle and run along it like a hamster in a wheel, wondering why this time again you were not lucky.

Conclusion: If you want to change something, start doing what you have not done before. If you want to change, get out of your comfort zone and start working on yourself, normalize your self-esteem, go in for sports, consult a specialist, read, watch a video, attend trainings or seminars that interest you, go on a journey, start doing everything that will help you know yourself, get to know yourself, learn to fill and love yourself. Because you are beautiful, and each of my clients later wondered how she could not see so much beauty in herself before.

If you have any questions, I will be happy to answer them.