Why Would A Woman Change A Man?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Probably every woman would like to see a man next to her who would meet all her needs and requirements. This is a well-founded desire, since living with a person who does not like it is at least unpleasant. Choosing men based on their own preferences is taught at various kinds of women's trainings, in self-development groups, and rightly so. Often women in such classes are asked to write a list of those qualities that, in the opinion of a woman, an ideal man should have. In itself, this task is cool and can greatly facilitate the task of finding a partner in life. But very often women make a mistake both when compiling such a list and applying it in real life.

So imagining that the future chosen one must have certain qualities, women do not always see that these very qualities can be mutually exclusive. So if in the requirements for a man, a woman first denotes success in society and leadership, then the next point can be the ability to be soft and sentimental, so that he likes the melodramas that the woman intends to watch together. But in a masculine character, these are extremely rarely combined moments. It's like a lion should eat grass instead of meat. Yes, when the predator feels the need for this, this is possible, but by no means out of desire. The leader has other qualities, but not sentimentality, which is why he is a leader. For a woman, such combinations do not seem to be something unreal, and she convinces herself that this is quite possible. But reality puts everything in its place. Opposite qualities cannot coexist in a man, since in this case he would have a deep inner conflict, with all the ensuing consequences. For a woman, even if she understands that this is so, it is very difficult to give up her beliefs and ideas about how it could be. This is because it is more pleasant and comfortable for a woman to live with these convictions, but without a man.

Often, such women, meeting a man who corresponds to many of the items on their list, understand that, after all, this man is not perfect in everything. Then they decide to bring the man to the parameters that they themselves came up with when making a list. Since nature has laid a maternal instinct in every woman, women believe that with a certain approach, they will be able to re-educate a man as a child. Moreover, they have the confidence that they only make a man better. After all, they do not want to change it completely, their desire is only to supplement it. The problem is that women may not know that a man thoroughly tests all his qualities and skills throughout his life, from childhood. Only those skills that suit this particular man most of all are selected. The man simply does not accept other qualities imposed on him, since they have not been tested by him and are of no value to him. Every man, like a woman, is an individuality and there is no other such thing on the planet, you should not forget about it.

The list of qualities of the prospective chosen one can be a good help for a woman, but in my opinion, you should not take it as a dogma. Dreams are good, but reality can be much more interesting. The point is that a person pays more attention.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.