2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Hello friends and colleagues!
I want to talk to you about the role of secrets in life, whether we know how to let them go, and how this relates to our ability to achieve success.
Did you know that keeping secrets is a special psychic work that takes a lot of energy? We can be aware of this (admit to ourselves that we keep this secret, understanding why), or not be aware.
The loss of energy for unconscious processes can be the reason that we cannot achieve the desired goals for a long time, whether it is about career, creativity or personal life.
I'll tell you a story.
One man had a difficult, conflicting relationship with his teenage daughter. The girl grew up in her father's second family. She was 5 years old when her mother and father divorced. The mother married a foreigner, left for another country and gave birth to her second child there. The father also married a second time, and the daughter stayed with him. The relationship was fairly balanced all the years, but after the birthday, when his daughter turned 18, as he described, she seemed to be loose.
Adolescence, of course, is not easy, and yet the situation did not look very common. It seemed to me that there was some kind of untold story between father and daughter. The man said that there is one secret that he keeps, and that he does not want to tell his daughter. It was about the fact that her mother, his first wife, committed theft and was under investigation. It was as a result of this that they divorced.
On the day of her 18th birthday, the daughter reminded her father that sometime in childhood he promised to tell her a secret connected with her mother when she becomes an adult. The father was surprised, he did not remember it. He laughed it off, did not tell her anything. The daughter was offended. I asked, what was his motive for doing this? He wanted to save his daughter from the unpleasant truth. However, now he decided to talk to her about it.
Things didn't go quite the way my father expected. The daughter said that she guessed about it. They cried together for the first time. Their relationship became closer and warmer after that. Interestingly, after that, the girl made a new attempt to communicate with her mother, and for the first time went to her family. She also went to college and began to study, which, of course, her father really wanted.
In difficult life situations, in states of confusion and confusion, when different options have been tried out, it can be useful to think about what secrets we keep. Recognizing forgotten secrets is hard work, but it gives us a sense of freedom of action.
This does not mean that the secret that we have kept for many years must definitely be released, especially if it is related to the safety of us and our loved ones. Of course, you should think carefully about this, whether it is necessary or not, and if so, in what form … But even the awareness of the secret within yourself or with a person you trust gives fresh energy that can be spent on new contacts with people and on new ones. accomplishments.
If the topic of secrets "clings" to you, you can do a little exercise.
Talk to a friend about the messages you received about keeping secrets as a child. Different things may come to mind, from the message “Don't tell anyone where this glass is buried” to serious events. Think together how much effort it took from you. Whether you easily agreed to keep a secret, or through an internal protest. What happened if you managed to keep a secret or if you revealed it. Whether you wanted to keep secrets or not.
You can have interesting discussion material and can learn a lot about your life.
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Friends and colleagues, I invite you to a training in Moscow on July 15-16, 2017
"ABILITY TO RELEASE AS A BASIS OF ABILITY TO ACHIEVE"
Registration by phone 8 929 922 16 42
I will be glad to see you)
Evgeniya
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