What Is Right And Why Does It Make Right So Bad? Burnout - What To Do About It?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In the internet, so much is written as correctly. How to eat right, the right daily routine, how to live, breathe, walk, fart. How to be in a relationship correctly, with whom to be and with whom not to be. If you left, then let go. If married, then not love. If it is harmful, then do not eat, do not drink, do not smoke. Do everything according to the instructions.

Well, I'm listening to the correct one. I live like a book teaches. And then like this - bang - and you don't want to do anything. And not to force. I know myself well in this place. Honestly - there is nothing to force. No deadlines. No agreements. This is the extreme point. It's all.

Everything is tasteless. Nothing pleases. Sadness is a seal. And the worst thing is that this sadness-sadness is not pleasant either. I would like to get rid of her as soon as possible.

It all looks like burnout.

Emotional burnout. Fatigue.

In this state, reactions to the world can be sharper, more painful, or vice versa, apathetic.

Let's look at two questions:

1. what is the reason for this condition (at least the key one);
2. what to do with it - well, at least try to do it.

So the reason

Reason - too much internal tension caused by internal conflict … I want one thing, make myself think / feel / do something completely different.

For example, from the painful one, in the continuation of the topic about betrayal, there was a break in relations. The partner very ugly and unexpectedly broke off the relationship without explaining anything. What a reaction to this - shock, anger and pain. In a proper way, you need to send him to hell with this anger. For it is impossible with me, or he showed his true face. But the soul hurts. Very. After anger, sadness rolls over, love returns, you start to miss the bad person. But you understand with your head that this relationship can no longer be reanimated, that it is impossible with him. But you love. What happens - you begin to struggle with warm feelings, especially with the hope for something that is not clear. The conflict escalates, tension grows, strength and energy are expended.

Well, or this widespread "must" - "you must love yourself." For without this self-love, you cannot build a happy relationship. It’s right. But where can you get this love for yourself, if it is not originally there, the parents did not teach, they grew up in society in such a way that try to love yourself. This self-love develops and grows gradually and smoothly. Well, now you have noticed behind yourself, or someone from the outside told you how in some manifestations you do not love yourself. Well, let's love yourself soon. And it is not liked. But you have to - that's right. And it … Again conflict, again resistance.

What other example to give?

O! In Feng Shui, the apartment should be clean and tidy. Then there is good energy in the house, and this contributes to prosperity in all areas of life. And you are an asshole since childhood. You hang in the clouds, draw pictures or write books. To you this order is like a dead poultice. But srach is a shame. This is how we were taught. Otherwise, you are a bad hostess, what can I take from you, the peasant does not need one, he will go to the one who is a good hostess. And you pull yourself together, instead of enjoying something else, you start scrubbing the floor. Even cooler, if you include some affirmations for yourself, for example, “I get pleasure from cleaning the floors,” then you can get hurt. But inside there is a voice that may already be barely audible: “I hate cleaning the floor!” Eh, again a conflict.

Or, do you want to eat these junk fries. Instead, you sharpen a healthy apple. And so regularly.

In general, there can be many examples. They surround us every day. From brighter, to automatic and completely unconscious.

These internal conflicts, when we do not allow ourselves what is happening inside us, consume energy. And so on cumulative. Depending on the intensity of the events, burnout occurs. When you no longer want anything and no one, it is sad, unpleasant, everything enrages, any crooked word or sidelong glance is perceived painfully.

Moving on to the second question - what to do about it?

Would write pathetic - accept. Accept what is happening to you. Only there is practically no absolute acceptance. This is high level. That is, deceiving ourselves with acceptance, we again produce an internal conflict.

But still?

The answer is - allow yourself what is happening to you

For example, you are an "asshole" and you are ashamed of it. Allow yourself this shame.

Or, in some matters you lose your boundaries, you swim, you really do not like it, tk. it is not right. Allow yourself to lose your boundaries in these matters. Tell yourself: "so far, dear, tomorrow will be different, but for now - so."

If you love a person with whom a relationship is impossible, you miss. Well, so far. Allow yourself this. Get bored. And get angry. Allow yourself to simultaneously experience incompatible feelings.

It’s sad for you, you’ve burned out, everything enrages you, you don’t want to do anything - allow yourself this. Just be sad, do nothing. Moan. Let's all go to … Not working? - well, so far. As far as it goes.

Note to yourself - what percentage it turns out to be able to afford it.

This greatly facilitates the fate. This releases the energy that is so wasted in the conflict.

This method also has a nice bonus. This is how you begin to understand yourself better. It is self-study. Especially if you investigate how much of a percentage you allow yourself your inner. How much you can satisfy your needs now.

From this moment, the long-awaited changes begin. And so you look, and the results will appear …