HOW TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE BETWEEN A LOVER AND A WIFE? PASS THE TEST AND FIND OUT WITH WHOM TO BE

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How to make the right choice between a mistress and a wife? According to my estimates, at least 70% of all husbands face this choice. Moreover, half of these men face such a choice more than once. It happens three or four times in life. Moreover, mistresses become wives, wives change, but the dilemma remains. And at least a quarter of these 70% cannot do what is wrong, but in general - a choice between two (or even three) women. For years, or even decades, they chaotically rush between them, turning, according to my author's terminology, into "shuttle" husbands. As a result, they lose their male authority, health, property, but most importantly - women and children close to them. Often, they lose life itself.

Therefore, as a psychologist whose main task is to help people, I consider it necessary to suggest to such men the correct algorithm of behavior in that difficult situation, when in fact they are already entangled in a web of love and lies, they hurt not only themselves, but also all participants in the love triangle, or even a square.

If a woman comes across the article and my reader is outraged by the very formulation of the question, she will criticize me for the fact that I am obliged to maintain the status of my wife at all costs, I will not agree with that. Undoubtedly, I fully advocate the sanctity of the family and its strength. But at the same time, as a psychologist, I fully understand those men who leave their wives for their mistresses, faced with really painful mistakes in the female behavior of their wives (the list of mistakes will be below).

In principle, I believe that neither men nor women are slaves to each other, they have every right to demand respect for themselves, taking into account their opinions and needs. Hence, they have every right to change wives and husbands, which is enshrined in the Family Code of the Russian Federation. However, I emphasize once again: the decision to change the wife to a mistress should be deeply meaningful, not momentary and based on specific reasons, factors and circumstances. Otherwise, life punishes for it very harshly and harshly. Often - even cruel.

Therefore, now I want to share with those of my male readers who have a long-term "left" love affair with the author's "questionnaire" which I am guided by in my work as a family psychologist. Its logic is extremely simple and is built on the basis of popular wisdom: "What you have - you do not value, when you lose, you cry!" Accordingly, you are kind of asked to first objectively assess what you can lose, before losing it. So to say, "spread the straw in advance where you plan to fall, or even better - avoid falling in advance."

So, if you started to think about the topic “shouldn't I leave my wife for my mistress, first honestly answer the following forty questions for my wife.

HOW TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE BETWEEN A LOVER AND A WIFE? TAKE THE TEST AND FIND OUT WITH WHOM TO BE

Evaluating everything is extremely simple: put + in the "yes" or "no" column.

Then you can decide for yourself: do the “problem points” of the wife outweigh her merits?

If you do not go to a psychologist, but strive to solve everything yourself, already based on your own answers, you will be able to form a general understanding of how much you will win or lose in the event of a divorce from your “half”.

In addition, I consider it correct to honestly answer the following thirteen sensitive questions:

Agree: a little self-criticism never hurts. In any case, this allows you to become a little more rational and adequate.

If you passed this mini test, then there are ten more questions for a snack:

Actually, that's all.

In this article, I deliberately leave everything without comment, so as not to impose my position on anyone. I’ll just say right away that in the practice of my work as a family psychologist, many men, walking with me through the circle of questions outlined in the tables, told me: “Andrey, that's enough! The necessary conclusions have been made! I have decided! Now tell me a specific and maximally psychologically soft algorithm of actions. Someone - to leave the family for a mistress, but more often - to preserve the existing marriage and to reanimate it using various methods that we select specifically for the situation and model of the family.

Therefore, the analysis of your situation and the decision-making is yours. If you do not cope yourself or do not know what to do next with your decision, I will be glad to give advice from a psychologist in a personal or online consultation (via Skype, Viber, WhatsApp or phone).

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