2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The film talks about stimulus and response. An incentive is money, a car, a loved one. And your emotional state is a consequence. Yes, it is certainly difficult to argue here, since these stimuli really affect our mood!
Then it says that you need to start right away with the reaction. That is, to feel as if you already have it all. And this desire, so that it does not bother you too much, to let you go into space on a rocket! And the universe will solve all the questions for you! Maybe he will, but only without you.
And then it says that you need to remove the significance of your desire and lower the importance. That is, not emotionally attached to him.
Let's imagine that a person hasn't eaten for a couple of days. And so he gets to a chic banquet, and the guests trample on delicious dishes. And he says, let me sit next to you? I really want to eat, and they told him: okay, let go of the desire and do not make a cult out of food! But they are not invited to the table.
An example of social comparison. The girl, thirty years old, is still not married, although all her friends already have families and children. But she is advised: let go of desire, switch to yoga, for example! She, perhaps, will let him go, but time will pass, perhaps years, but the problem will not be solved! And the mirror makes it clear that time takes its toll and its competitiveness is declining.
In the film, everything is clear that it is necessary to remove the importance, but there is no specific tool on how to remove this importance when it is really important for a person!
So: The secret of the film is that the people who created it gained fame and, as a result, made money on it! But for the people who watched it, this is nothing more than brain masturbation! The secret is that it is not realistic to do this, but you will naturally be told that you visualized incorrectly, but we will, of course, help you, but for your money. And they will offer a bunch of distracting, supposedly spiritual practices. And then either the donkey dies or the padishah. Parable of Nasruddin.
First: you must remove the focus of attention from this problem in order to remove anxiety and transfer the psyche to a different vibration frequency. Second: shift your focus to the things you don't want to do
Sounds strange ?! No! I explain that there are terminal (global) goals with the ultimate meaning according to Dmitry Leontyev, and there are instrumental goals - these are the goals of the means that will help you achieve the global goal. Rokeach's method of value orientations
The bottom line is that many people do not want to complete instrumental goal-tasks. They do not want to change, change their behavior, their attitudes, but want to get everything at once on a silver platter
Understand that only you are the cause of the situation in which you are at the moment
Do not give up on your goal, but start acting towards your goal, focusing only on what is in your power
The desire should not be released, but the focus of attention should be shifted to the end-means (instrumental). For example, if you are lonely, then turn to a professional psychologist, with whom you can analyze your situation, perhaps change your communication style and demeanor
Do not discount men by comparing them to your ideal image or past casual relationships. Do not transfer your negative feelings (projection) to a man, for example: you are some kind of nervous, aggressive, strange. Thus, I force the man to make excuses. Not to tell a man at the first communication that he owes something, by definition, that he is a man.
Your desire should be a by-product of your purposeful work activity. Money is a by-product of labor. Do you think the surgeon likes to do operations or the dentist likes to pick his teeth? But over time, many of them will have their own clinics and, as a result, cars and apartments.
Example: a woman with two children turned to me and said: I have been unemployed for almost half a year, I have two children and need to feed them, how can I remove the significance? After all, money is really important for our family now! And she is already completely exhausted by the search for work and the maximum that they offer is $ 200, which absolutely does not solve anything!
Note that when you cannot solve the actual problem for a long time (deprivation), then your consciousness begins to narrow, as in hypnosis. I dwell on the problem, like on a shiny ball that is waving in front of your eyes, you can no longer think about anything. At the same time, depression sets in, in which mental activity decreases!
Here's what I suggested to her: First, understand where your influence on the situation is, and where is the "will from above"! You should be looking for a job in the morning, sending your resume no more than an hour a day. That is, you do what is in your power, but you limit it in time! And the rest of the time you devote yourself to your beloved. Further, the result of your activity does not depend on you, it is already a matter of chance.
Your task is to understand where you are influencing, and where is the will of chance. The main thing is that you did what the situation demanded of you! For this you praise yourself and no longer "take a steam bath." Next, take this situation as a well-deserved rest and switch to those activities that increase your mental vibration. This is the activity with which you resonate and it enhances your energy.
Remember! Your goal should be sustainable. This is the goal through which you develop as a person, through which you become better. And this goal gives you energy, not depressing!
A girl sent me a letter: I have been doing visualizations for hours in front of a mirror, but strangely for some reason it does not work ?! So, you need to praise yourself for the work done, and unreasonably praise yourself! Read the bible: Pride is a harbinger of fall!
And understand that the result will not always be instantaneous and not always dependent on you. The main thing, like fishing, is to choose the right place, to "throw in" correctly, and whether the fish is suitable or not, this is not your competence! For example, she visualizes half a day, and at home there is a pile of unwashed dishes and a lot of dust. You do what the present moment demands of you and what you can directly influence.
Fate is the corridor along which you walk, and if you do everything that this situation requires of you, then the corridor will become wider and you will go to the next level!
For example, I personally do not like to act in video clips and edit my videos. More precisely, I love, but in the mood. But when it becomes work, then in the professional definition there is such a formula: I want, I can, they demand! And I do this in order to later live better, lie under the palm trees and hold one or two consultations a day for good money.
Yes, maybe when my project starts to bring in more money, then I will hire people who will do the editing of my video, a slender and beautiful presenter and a group of psychologists to write scripts.
And this will also be my project and all the work that I do not want to do, ATTENTION! (because I know how to do it), I will shift it to my subordinates!
And then I will already have managerial functions: planning, organization, control, which, perhaps over time, I will not want to deal with either and will switch to another project! But this is the only way, I don’t want to, earn a name and money!
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