2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How much does unlimited communication with yourself cost?
“If I don’t take the trouble to hear you, but assume that I know, then what you’ll tell me.” So you will never know what he wanted to say. Therefore, there is no need to answer. Thus, there is no dialogue, there is a monologue. Usually we perform actions based on our vision of the situation. For example, if my husband refuses to spend all his free time together, then I begin to think that he is no longer interested in me, but if we admit other possible reasons underlying my husband's behavior? My husband is still interested in me, but it is important for him to get recognition from colleagues who are passionate about golf, so he decides to devote part of his free time to mastering it … is it possible?
Or does he not like the way we spend our leisure time, but he does not dare to tell me about it, because he is afraid … maybe this? Or he has a hobby that is interesting to him, albeit not in the same way as we are, but which also requires part of his time.
Let's admit that we do not have an organ that would read other people's thoughts. We do not know our partner "like the back of my hand", as we are sure of this - we do not even know ourselves so well.
What then is to be done? Imagine we think something about the feelings or thoughts of another, it is worth at this moment "catching himself by the tail", to realize that this is a fantasy - all just an assumption taken from my personal experience, which requires verification. And check. And when a partner answers our question, it is important to notice it - to see, hear and respond. This is the Meeting, which will allow you to become closer and develop relationships, starting from the true state of affairs. It's easier to talk about it than to do it. Being in contact with your partner, and not with your fantasies about him, is a risk. But he who does not take risks, as they say, does not drink champagne.
I hope this article will allow lovely ladies to think about whether you always hear your partner or allow speculation to guide you in a relationship …?
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