2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"This is not my life" - there are 4 words in this phrase. Only four! But behind them are millions of broken destinies. Those who have been imposed a framework of behavior, stereotypes. Who does not listen to "his soul", his heart, emotions, feelings and does not go to what he really wants.
I read about actors who got used to the role and in life unconsciously began to behave like their movie hero:
- Johnny Depp for the film "Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas" immersed himself in the image of the journalist Hunter S. Thompson, adopted manners and words. And after - a couple of months he returned to his present.
- Kate Winslet was "enslaved" by her character from the movie "The Reader" - an illiterate concentration camp guard and spent many days and efforts to get out of someone else's emotional shell.
The "immersion" of the actors did not last long. But a lot of people always act according to someone else's scenario.
Often they live someone else's life due to the influence of parents, close people, others. Several generations were influenced by the Soviet "framework" - the prohibition to stand out from the masses. Even earlier - the war, when you had to be emotionless, forbid yourself to feel in order to survive terrible events.
A small child does not separate emotions from himself. Nature has laid down the ability to sincerely rejoice, be upset and show it. But such a gift was "rekhtovali" by upbringing. In many families, in kindergarten, school, prohibitions, reproaches crippled the psyche: do not interfere; Do not run; be silent; you are stupid, you will not succeed.
Everyone grew up physically, but emotionally - not everyone. Over time, the "framework" became more global: you need to become a lawyer; it's time to have a baby; the successful must have an iPhone. As a result, a person ignores his emotions, desires and resigns himself: this is accepted; if you need it, you need it; iPhone is an indicator of success.
Do you remember Vysotsky's song "Hunting for Wolves" - how a she-wolf broke stereotypes, jumped over a fence of red flags and thereby saved herself?
The phrase "this is not my life" is said by the one who saw the "flags", wants to escape from the "captivity" and make his own destiny.
Everyone has the opportunity to get rid of imposed goals and become happy.
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