Why Do We Need Emotions And How Can We Use Them To Our Advantage?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In our life, we constantly experience some kind of emotion. What are they for us and what to do with them? This is what I am with you today and I want to talk about it.

Our emotions tell us what is happening to us - whether it is happening in our life, what WE NEED, WHY WE ARE GOOD, or IT'S NOT THAT AT ALL.

In our life, we constantly experience some kind of emotion. What are they for us and what to do with them? This is what I am with you today and I want to talk about it.

Our emotions tell us what is happening to us - whether it is happening in our life, what WE NEED, WHY WE ARE GOOD, or IT IS NOT THAT AT ALL.

Every day, every hour, every moment of practically our life, we have different needs. These can be the most common needs - for warmth, food, sleep, water, etc. And more complex ones - in emotional closeness, in love, in attention, in support, in acceptance, in care, etc.

And when our needs are satisfied by us or with the help of other people, then we experience emotions of joy, pleasure, satisfaction, or we can feel tenderness, love, gratitude, etc.

If our needs are not satisfied for some reason, then we experience a variety of conventionally called "negative" emotions - we can get irritated, angry, angry, sad, etc.

And all these emotions tell us about our needs - about what is with them - whether they are satisfied or not. And these same emotions can tell us what we can do to help ourselves meet these needs.

Therefore, it is so important to be able to notice emotions in yourself. To be able to name them - what kind of emotions and experiences I am now experiencing. And when we can notice and recognize them, then it is easier for us to find a way how to satisfy our needs.

Perhaps even with the help of other people. After all, we live among people and very often our needs are associated with relationships with other people.

Psychologists identify several basic (basic) emotions. These are fear, joy, sadness and anger. And to begin with, it is important to be able to notice and define them.

Unfortunately, we are not always able to recognize what kind of emotions or feelings we are experiencing. Because, as a rule, we were not taught this either in kindergarten or in school. Someone was lucky and they were taught this in the family. But this is more the exception than the rule.

For example, if we rejoice or experience satisfaction or pleasure, this tells us that we get what we want, that one or more of our needs are satisfied. Therefore, we are satisfied.

Or for example, we are annoyed or unhappy or angry, these emotions tell us that something is not going the way we would like. That something that we need is not yet available to us, we cannot yet receive it.

And if we learn to notice emotions and feelings without ignoring them, without suppressing them, then we can understand what this emotion or feeling is telling us. In other words, we will be able to understand what we need.

And when we find out what we need, then we can look for a way how to get it.

For example, we notice that we are feeling angry. And we ask ourselves the question: Why am I angry, what is wrong? Second question: What would I like instead? And the third question: How can I get it?

The scheme seems to be simple. But without skill it can be difficult to complete. Although, if you try, you can definitely learn it.

But what happens to us if we ignore or suppress or deny our emotions?

And the following happens - we go astray, do not follow our needs, desires and suffer, feeling unhappy. Well, the most unpleasant thing is that unexpressed emotions and feelings, remaining in us, find a way out in ourselves, destroying our health, causing various symptoms and diseases.

In situations when we bring up children and suppress all kinds of manifestations of their emotions, children develop, just like adults, psychosomatic diseases.

It can be anything - any disease or symptom.

Therefore, it is so important to learn to notice your emotions and feelings and experiences. And accept the emotions and feelings of other people, especially those close to you.

It is important to learn to notice emotions in yourself, to recognize them - what are they about. And what you can do to get what you want.

And if you are a parent, then it is important to teach your child to understand the emotions and feelings that he is experiencing.

For example, call him and your emotions. Those. talk about what you think he might be experiencing in a certain situation. And it is important to inform him about your emotions.

For example, if you see that he is sad, then tell him: “You are sad now. Are you upset about something? Something is wrong? And what can be done to make it the way you want? How can I help you with this?"

Or you can say to yourself, for example: "I am upset that it turned out this way, and not the way I wanted."

And in this way the child gets an idea that he can experience different emotions and with what they are connected and how they can be used for his own benefit.

Good luck on the path of knowing yourself, on the path of improving relations with loved ones and on the path of raising happy children!

Psychologist, child psychologist Velmozhina Larisa