2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One cannot do without teachers in life. And not only at school. If a person wants qualitative changes, a different level of income, to become a new personality, a mentor is that very guide. Because he is already there, he has accumulated experience of trial and error, full of bumps and worn out knees, he already knows everything about traps and difficulties, how to bypass and overcome them.
It's good that there is money. A person for money can exchange with a mentor for his experience and knowledge or buy his time and attention if there is a lot of pain and do not know how to approach it.
Probably everyone dreams of a kind, understanding and wise teacher. With such an inner image, a person is looking for someone who will lead him into a better and more interesting life. But the Field can lead a person to a completely different image - arrogant, aggressive, cynical - and this will be the very mentor who is most needed at this moment and on this segment of the path.
How do many react when life leads them to an aggressive, arrogant teacher? They run away. With a bag of grievances, tears and disappointments, which drag on all your life, without having figured out the meaning of what really happened?
A person does not just strive for a kind and wise mentor, so that he understands everything, is warm and open.
You probably already guessed who is really behind this dream?
Of course the figure of mom.
When in childhood there was not enough of her warmth, love, understanding, or maybe there was nothing at all. A person begins to look for it in adulthood and then seriously risks getting stuck in childhood trauma and sticking to the position of the inner child. It is impossible to find another mom. It is given only once.
You can, of course, come up with a surrogate fake and spend your whole life under someone's warm barrel, becoming the most loyal and zealous follower. But this means only one thing - a person has given up his growth, it is more comfortable for him to be a consumer of someone else's life and energy with his eyes closed.
To really grow up, to grow up, you need to see your mother for who she is. And when a person comes to a cold and arrogant teacher - he is given a chance - to go through something for which he did not have the strength in childhood. Withstand the Aggressor, from whom he ran away, closed and hid in childhood. But now, in order to begin to grow and connect with his strength, Fate led him to the most necessary and necessary teacher. After all, it is very easy to take from a warm and loving mother, but it is even more important to learn to take from what she is - even if she is cold, schizophrenogenic, cruel, merciless. Then internal growth will begin (feeling your boundaries, separating your own and others, the ability to stand up for yourself and fight back, and much more), you will have the strength to get out of the capsule, overcome your fears and limitations, go beyond the red flags behind which a person has been hiding for decades.
To move to a qualitatively new level of life in relationships, income, career, well-being and self-awareness, it is necessary for the inner child to grow from a victim, from a rescuer, from an empty place. It takes strength to face your pain. And this strength can only be taken from growth. And when it begins, life will certainly lead a person to a different teacher.
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