2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The topic of parents is not simple, many avoid it, assuring themselves that everything is already in the past - it is sick and outdated. But when a person comes to solve issues with a career, business, money, self-realization, as a rule, his relations with his parents come to the fore - complaints and grievances. Even at 50, a person unconsciously expects from his mother that she will finally love him or understand how cool and cool he is. And it doesn't matter that mom died long ago. It is important that all these years a person has been pouring energy in anticipation of a miracle, and what is necessary for his life passes by.
The theme of the cost of living is acute and painful. After all, many hunt, compete, compete for mother's love - with father, brother, sister, life, fate - in order to prove that you did not give birth to me in vain.
And what really drives such a strategy of behavior? What feeling does a person can't stand? It oppresses and torments him as soon as he looks into his clear and beloved mother's eyes.
It's good if mom openly told you in childhood:
- that because of you she broke her career, - got in touch with the idiot husband, because you would need a father, - lost the only love of my life, again, because you needed a father, - you broke her life, - because of you, it did not come true and did not come true, - she did not buy luxurious leather boots or a mink coat or just a fur coat, because you needed money for cereals, diapers, briefcases and in general,
- how would she live well if you weren't there, - because of you, she lost her health, her favorite earrings, a ring and much more
Of course, it does not matter at all that you didn’t know and didn’t know anything, and you only needed your mother’s love, her voice, look, touch.
But the stars came together exactly the way they did.
Why is it good ? Because in psychotherapeutic or constellation work, there is clarity and specificity with what to work with, what part of your soul to heal or where to get it from.
After all, it is wine that oppresses and torments you all the years. What will the child not do for the sake of mother's affection and love? Will accept any rules of the most absurd and manipulative game “Come on, you will be to blame for everything! And I'll just stand next to you."
And a child with an open heart at a subtle feeling level trustfully answers "come on."
It is the fault that my mother didn’t work out, didn’t come true, or something broke that creates a feeling of unworthiness of life, as if you have no right not only to live. But also to live better, brighter, more meaningful, to take risks, to manifest, to enter into exchange with the world, to live in abundance, in love, freely.
Everything. Dot. There is a strict prohibition here.
Mom didn’t work out, it didn’t come true, it didn’t come true - and I cannot, I have no right, I will never leave her where she has been sitting comfortably and comfortably all the years. After all, then all life is in vain! And suddenly, right now, when only - as soon as you are ready to turn into your life, mom will take and love and appreciate you, so wonderful and necessary!
The trap is slammed shut. Years go by. Many never leave their mother for their own - life, destiny, love, happiness.
Many remain, where she is - only she is comfortable, but you are tough. Because the price of being needed for a mother and the price of waiting for her love is always the time of your life.
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