2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Like many processes, psychotherapy has a beginning, its main part and an end. But it often happens that a person suddenly decides to end meetings with a psychologist. This can happen at the very beginning of work, when a person realizes that he is uncomfortable working with this specialist. And this may be a completely natural situation. But this can also happen in the midst of work, when the dynamics of the process shows that the client has managed to touch some very important experiences, and the process is in full swing. What could be hidden behind such a desire to suddenly stop working?
Practice shows that a very important moment for a person can be hidden in this desire. And if such a desire has arisen, I propose to listen to myself and try to answer the question: "Why did I decide to do this now?" The answers can be very different. This is also a collision with some difficult experiences that are difficult or even unbearable to endure. Or on the contrary, it seems that nothing is happening - meeting after meeting takes place, but nothing changes. And this is not what you expected from the process for which you are paying money.
In my opinion, this situation can provide a very useful experience if you try to get out of it differently than just leaving without trying to figure it out. If you have such a desire - try to give yourself space to think, to think about it. Most importantly, tell the therapist that you want to leave. And you can also share your doubts, fears and what you don't like in the process, or in its work. This can be a valuable experience for you. A therapeutic relationship inherently presupposes that one can speak not only about what has happened or is happening in life, but also about the relationship between the client and the therapist itself. And try not to manifest and show your feelings through actions, but to discuss and explore them in the space of therapy. And the situation can turn out in different ways. Perhaps you will understand that you really need to leave now. Or maybe it will be possible to use this opportunity and work through some very important experiences, enter into deeper contact with oneself. And the most valuable thing that can be gained from this is to feel relief from your worries and fears.
In any case, this situation will help clarify what is really happening now with you, or in a relationship with a psychologist. What is really behind this desire to interrupt the process? And with this understanding, we already have to make a choice - to continue the therapy or complete it.
Did you have such a desire to leave therapy? What was happening at that moment, why did it arise? And what did you do?
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