2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why don't people go to a psychologist?
It's simple. It's not about money, as many people say, it's about the psyche, which is not ready for change. Subconsciously, the human psyche feels that if it enters this process, then …
It might hurt.
I'll have to accept that my vision of the issue does not help me.
You will have to take responsibility for your reactions, and not blame others and look for the guilty ones.
We'll have to accept that the behavior of children, parents, spouses is a reflection of your inner state and your own attitude towards yourself.
We'll have to change, today I thought so, but now I have to think differently if I want to resolve the issue.
Hard. The truth is difficult. And that's why people often go to a psychologist when they press it directly, when you realize that you don't know how to change something, that all the previously known methods no longer work, and probably never worked.
So, my opinion about who can really be helped is the one who is ready to look at the same thing in a new way, the one who is ready to change himself, and not change others, who is ready to at least try to look differently at the tormenting his question, and not everything is the same as he looked, but this did not change the situation of his life.
If you are not yet ready for the fact that everything may not turn out the way you thought all your life that you will have to change only yourself and leave others alone, then do not go to therapy, do not try, just wait until you mature inside.
Working with a psychologist is always working on yourself or with yourself.
Working with a psychologist is a supportive atmosphere and a different perspective on the issue.
You can only help someone who wants to help himself.
And it is impossible to help someone who only wants to blame others for something wrong with him: mood, life circumstances, finances, personal life, etc.
This principle applies both in therapy and in life. How many people ask for help, but often just do not use the advice on which you are wasting your energy. For the most part, people just want to whine, complain, but cannot find a solution to their problems. If you understand this, then you can simply stop the person with the question: Do you now, what do you want? Solve this issue or just so that I listen to you. This will return the person to reality, and it will save you energy.
Sometimes it can be helpful to leave the person alone. If you see that a person just likes to complain, and not to solve issues, then let the person make their choice. It so happens that, being left alone with his task, a person makes a choice - Yes, I want to change this, and I will do something, or not, now I do not want to decide anything, but I will just continue to suffer and complain.
Relieve yourself of responsibility for someone else's life - We can only be responsible for our own lives. You should not think that the other is more helpless than you and solve his problems for him. This is more a manifestation of pride, and not really a desire to help.
Help is only help when it comes from a state of awareness, the choice of a way to help or refusal to help (often this is also an option of help - to give a person the opportunity to solve their problems on their own).
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