Female Orgasm

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

To achieve satisfaction from sex, you should not do it right, as it is written in the book, as the sex trainer said, or seen in the movies, instead, it is important to speak as you want (well, to do, of course). Each woman is individual, and each has its own ways of getting an orgasm, and if she does not have an orgasm from a few minutes of sex, she does not become worse than others from this.

A lot of women don't get full pleasure solely from frictions. There are women who can only get a myotonic orgasm (achieved through the tension of the muscles of the thighs, abs and pelvis), and this does not make her wrong, she is just like that, and the partner should know about it, so that this method of achieving partner's orgasm could be built in into their sex. But in order to share this with a partner, you need closeness, trust, care, a desire to make your loved one pleasant. By no means always men themselves ask how a woman wants, and it would be just wonderful to find out, first of all, her needs (what is required of him to achieve her orgasm), and secondly, her desires (what she would like to try in the near future, and what, perhaps, even now). Sometimes the question of achieving orgasm by a woman in a couple is solved by frank conversation and a little practice. Sometimes! But not always.

There are men with narcissistic pathology who need a woman who squirts and ends up many times from minute sex to confirm his masculinity.

There are norms in sex, and they are quite difficult to establish, since they depend on social, biological and personal factors. The average normal duration of sex for a man (from the onset of frictions to the onset of orgasm) is 1, 49 - 3, 49 minutes. For a man, orgasm is physiologized, and the very anticipation of sex is the prelude for him. The female orgasm is completely different, it is psycho-emotional. On average, a woman needs from 9 to 21 minutes to reach orgasm, and this does not mean frictions. Women have many erogenous zones of an extragenital nature, the impact on which can excite her quite strongly before direct coitus, sex for a woman should begin long before the intromission itself. Touching, stroking, squeezing, kissing, spanking, and everything that she herself in advance or at the moment she wants to say. It is advisable to start coitus itself when she is already very well prepared, it is a matter of attunement and the ability to feel each other, in an extreme case, a woman can be given a sign (it is important that a woman is not afraid to do this, so that she is liberated enough for this).

A woman's orgasm occurs in the head, it is closely related to the sensory component. There is the concept of "extragenital orgasm", which describes orgasms that arise not as a result of stimulating the genitals, but, for example, in a dream, from a kiss, while sucking on nipples, even from vivid fantasies! This is not characteristic of all women, and there is nothing wrong, shameful and extraordinary in the fact that it is. These are just anatomical features, so you cannot deduce one gold standard of sex, as women achieve orgasm in different ways. But at the same time, there is the concept of an "orgasmic standard", which states that it is normal when both partners get an orgasm during coitus, but for women, it is also normal for women to achieve orgasm in 70% of sex cases.

A woman's rejection of her body greatly affects the ability to have an orgasm. Acceptance or rejection of oneself is very much related to mental health, but it is also related to culture, and it is important for a person to be recognized as a member of a group. Modern women have to balance on the verge of “I am what I am” and “I am the ideal”, and someone succeeds in this: keeping oneself in shape and not radically improving; but for some - no: some fall into body positive, others become addicted to sports and nutrition by grams, and still others fall into endless improvement. We live in a time when some "experts" talk about cellulite as almost a deadly disease, when girls dream of pumping their abs to cubes (often to the detriment of their health), when only the mother who gives birth refuses to feed the baby in order to preserve the breast.

The ability to have an orgasm is the ability to not think about how you look during arousal. And again about love, care and trust. If the girl was accepted in childhood by her parents, if she, as an adult, can accept herself, and, accordingly, her partner accepts her, then during a close relationship with him she can relax and not worry about how she looks. If there is tension in the question of accepting oneself, this can interfere, and sometimes even interfere with getting an orgasm.

Sex is a moment of connection with another human being, bodily and emotionally, where there is no longer a boundary between bodies, where both dissolve in each other, where there are movements towards each other without fear of destroying by their activity and without fear of being destroyed by the activity of another, where complete connection is up to complete automatism. Such an attunement of two loving adults is only in sex, but it also exists between a mother and a baby, when the mother feels her baby so subtly that she wakes up a few seconds before he wakes up, when she feeds him exactly at the moment when he just wanted to eat. when she easily rocks him in a rhythm suitable for him and he falls asleep sweetly.

It happens that sex for a person is a purely mechanical phenomenon, and such people may not receive saturation from sex, not be in the moment in merging with a partner, cannot give pleasure, but only take, and sometimes they can give, but only so that another choked. There are a huge number of options for mental developmental disorders, which are reflected in sex and in the ability to be in emotional closeness with a partner, and psychotherapy (psychosexology) works with the problems of this important part of human life.