2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do you think such a phenomenon as a "curse" is only about black magic?
You are wrong!
All this has a place in our everyday life!
Just imagine:
The girl really wanted to help her mother and while cleaning the dishes from the table, she accidentally broke the cup. Mom was very angry with her daughter and shouted:
"Such clumsy, as you no one will marry!"
The girl does not even think about what it means to "get married" yet, and a tiny grain of doubt has already fallen into fertile soil. This is how the first stage of the "curse" was born
The teenage girl is still cheerful, she happily turns in front of the mirror, going to the school disco, but suddenly her dad's remark knocks the ground out from under her feet:
"Look at you how fat you are in those horrible shorts!"
A seed of doubt sprouted and took root. And this was already the second stage of the "curse"
And at this very disco, the one for whom she came here did not even look in her direction.
- So, after all, they are right - mom and dad?
Their words have already echoed into my head:
"… no one will marry!", "How fat you are"
The girl looks enviously at the one with whom he is dancing and realizes how much she is inferior to her rival in everything.
The seed of doubt has already given a powerful sprout, which the girl is no longer able to eradicate, and the "curse" has entered its third stage.
The girl tried very hard and became slim, but this did not add to her confidence in herself, because the one she had always thought of did not even look in her direction.
When going to the graduation point, the girl chooses an outfit for a long time, the main task of which will not be to emphasize her dignity, because the girl has already learned that she consists of only flaws that must be hidden.
It seems that we managed to cope with the task and the dress turned out to be just right!
The adjacent silhouette makes the figurine fragile, and the stole hides the stoop.
“Everything is fine and maybe even he will finally notice that I am also pretty …” - the girl did not have time to think this thought out to the end, as her grandmother's voice, unexpectedly retorted to her:
“Everything would be fine, but you were too long. Straight, shafts! And the nose, the nose! For seven I grew up, and one got it! All in her daddy. Look, Valentina Vanna's granddaughter is no match for you - a little Thumbelina! And her face, even if you write oil paintings! Eka, son-in-law ruined the breed!"
And now, now, when the former seed of doubt has turned into a powerful thistle, it has already become life-threatening to fight with it manually.
And the "curse" passed into the fourth, practically irreversible stage.
Now a matured woman will have to prove all her life that she is worthy of love!
To ask, to beg, to seek this love, to run after it, like a blue bird to the end of the world, and only, having touched it with a hand, lose again and again.
But every poison has an antidote
And to throw off the shackles of witchcraft, you need magic words.
- What do you think these words are?
It seems that it is so simple, but not everyone is given, because the words and actions of significant people sound in us like the ultimate truth!
- Realize that everything in the world is relative, including beauty, and these beloved and significant people are by no means gods!
- They can, like all people, have their own opinion, which is not always the ultimate truth.
- To give them the right to be not perfect, to allow them to be wrong.
- Most likely, they said and did it, not wanting to hurt you.
Do the exercise
- Close your eyes and relax
- Breathe deeply and slowly, inhaling through your nose, exhaling through your mouth, purifying your body with air.
- Imagine those people who sowed seeds of doubt in you
- Remember how they said those words or took actions that hurt you badly.
- How did you feel about it?
- Rationalize the words and actions of these people, translating the "curse" into a limiting belief, thereby making it less important to yourself and giving, an explanation.
- Remove the "curse". So, going out on feelings:
Limiting belief
Rational explanation
no one will marry
Dear mother, when you said this, I felt hurt, because for me it meant that you did not understand how I am trying to please you. Now I am an adult and I only understand, your momentary opinion about a specific situation, in fact, you wished me well
how fat you are
Dear Dad, when you said this, I felt angry, because to me it meant that you did not see me a beautiful woman.
Maybe I was not as thin as you would like, only, I am far from fat. And, besides, I know there are many fat and happy women. I, too, will be happy the way I am. Let me have it.
I won't dance with you
Dear boy, I'm sorry when you rejected me, felt pain, a lot of pain because it meant to me that I was not good enough for you
Only you are not the only one in the world. Someday, another person who accepts and loves me will dance with me
You are a long shaft and you have a big but. Your daddy ruined the breed.
Dear grandmother, when you said this, I felt a strong resentment, because it meant for me that the granddaughter of some Valentina Ivanovna is more important to you than me.
And I understand that you wanted me not to be proud of beauty and "did not bring it in the hem." This is how you took care of me.
And today I ask you to take your words back. Sorry, but your taste is outdated. Tall girls are in fashion now, and my nose makes the appearance, just more thoroughbred!
Our heroine underwent therapy and threw off her "curses". Now she believes in herself, trusts herself and loves herself! This means that a meeting with someone who will love her for who she is, and not as a reward for "length of service" is not far off.
People who impose "curses" do not even know what they are doing! They cannot even put down to themselves at what cost, people close to them, will be restored!
For example, saying to your husband: "You are not a man" or "You are a loser" are also "curses"!
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