2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Let's be honest, most people don't know how to build relationships. And believe me, it's not even worth starting.
The text below applies equally to both men and women.
Now there is a lot of positive information, trainings on how to resolve conflicts, how to negotiate, solve sexual difficulties, create harmonious relationships, and so on.
This is bullshit! Why do all this and read, when you can just not enter into a relationship!
Enough arguments in favor of these words:
- First, you need to find a person, which is not easy. Not just once, but for a long, serious relationship. Young people often turn to me for consultations with the fact that they cannot get to know girls, this is a serious difficulty.
- Secondly, relationships are constant clashes with other people's boundaries, characteristics and restrictions of your freedom. Why do you need this? Better to be free.
- Plus, people do not know and do not understand themselves and the motives for entering into a relationship. Someone is purely for status, someone for the implementation of parental instructions, someone because it is lonely. Often in the bottom line: wounded girls and guys, with negative beliefs, children, grievances, and so on.
- At the same time, relationships are also very painful, they wipe their feet on your soul, betray, change. And you still think about how to forgive and keep the relationship. To hell with it! Better to be private and not show your feelings.
- In addition, all this is seasoned with the fact that you are poked, accused, offended, periodically taken out by the brain. And nobody else does it, but a loved one. Do you really want this?
- It's a shame when, they violate agreements, do not keep promises, you try, and the other does not notice it.
- It's sad when there are different values or they were different from the beginning, and you didn't notice it under the influence of hormones.
- Sexual relations are a separate topic. It happens that a partner refuses sex or sex becomes a subject of manipulation, or it does not exist at all. How can that be? Yes, there are different sex constitutions and the need for sex. Well, as without him, then. How can you not want the person you love? Do you love, do you? Why is such a person next to you?
- Or, in general, your partner gravitates to sexual perversions or dubious experiments, and inclines you to them. Why do you need this?
- There is also a lot about myself that I do not want to endure, for example, any complexes, behavior and character features, my own body and its nakedness, which is more common in girls.
- In a relationship, vulnerability and need become more obvious, you open up to a person, and he will spit there, or he will barbarously treat you.
- Yes, finally, our own stupidity, stubbornness and inability to see another person nearby and hear him, we will interfere with you.
- And pride, you will have to sacrifice it, go to the "world", somewhere to capitulate. Are you ready for such sacrifices?
- What about children? Why do you need children if your relationship is a mess. You think the birth of a child will fix something. Do not powder your brains! Children are expenses, responsibility, this is an adult step, because upbringing is a serious task for both.
Just leave this idea behind.
Forget relationships! This is hard labor, you have to plow, devote time to your partner, entertain him, pamper him.
As you can see, relationships do a lot of harm, take time and energy, expose your true traits and weaknesses, and make you vulnerable. As a result, you become closed, callous and distrustful of people.
Think carefully before entering into a relationship, starting a family.
If you have read and after all of the above, you still have at least a small interest in the direction of relationships
Then hold on. You will have to face what is described above, live, decide, think. It won't be easy.
Relationships are difficult work, if you succeed, then it will be worth it
Do you think the relationship is worth it?
Write your answers in the comments.
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