2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What are the most common protections in the life of every person?
How not to defend yourself?
Getting into an unpleasant situation, a person, as a rule, begins to defend himself against the experienced negative feelings (shame, fear, guilt). Such feelings are experienced quite difficult, therefore, defense mechanisms are turned on. These are psychological techniques that are used unconsciously to reduce stress when faced with external and internal conflicts. However, if self-defense is delayed, one day you can lose touch with reality, and with it the opportunity to live a full life and build any kind of relationship.
The most unpleasant defensive reactions are manifested on the part of loved ones, including a partner, when a person lies, attacks, turns on aggression or ignores, tries to isolate himself and disappears.
Psychological protection in many cases works against a person, immersing him in an environment of distorted reality. However, in the complete absence of protective mechanisms, it is incredibly difficult to cope with stressful situations, up to severe mental disorders or physical illness.
Is it possible to avoid manifestations of protective reactions and how? It all depends solely on the depth of the feelings and emotions experienced and the careful study of the consequences of the trauma, which became the provocateur of the activation of the defense.
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