Why Do Men Leave Relationships?

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Why Do Men Leave Relationships?
Why Do Men Leave Relationships?
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In a deep and high-quality relationship, which the majority strive for, it is not the possession of a partner or a partner that is important, but your state next to him or her. This is what is most important.

Women often view men as a source of anything, for some it is morality, for others money. Here, women are partly right, but at the same time they have a very vague idea of how to use it. The fact is that men all their lives accumulate experience and knowledge in order to realize it by creating a family. Women also gain experience, but this is more an experience of experiences, that is, an emotional response. And when two meet, they begin to realize their experience. Women, respectively, demonstrate emotions - joy when meeting, admiration for the attention on his part, and so on. The man, on the other hand, manifests itself in protecting the woman from something dangerous. This could be a leaking bathroom faucet or moving heavy bags of groceries home from the store. In general, the goal of a man is to build a family according to his own safety rules, in other words, not to allow a woman to do something that can lead to unpleasant consequences. Moreover, a man himself sometimes may not be aware of this. But women who are not inclined to strategic thinking often begin to perceive this as pressure on their personality.

At the beginning of a relationship, especially, a man does not even think about any pressure, he wants not to allow a woman to commit an unsuccessful act. Therefore, at first he tries to softly explain this to her, it does not always work out and not for everyone. In most cases, a woman simply does not notice this, and she does not do it on purpose, but because she does not know why a man says and acts this way. Example. A couple in the store picks her a tablet. Both he and she are over thirty, it is clear that in a relationship not so long ago. He tries to point to the model that he knows and understands that it is worthy of attention. But then a consultant appears, begins to ask the woman questions about what is more important for her and as a result sells her a completely different model, which is objectively inferior to the first in a number of parameters. The man is silent, not wanting to upset his companion. If we try to analyze this situation, it will become clear why the woman made such a choice. This is attention from another man, and the woman at that moment was absolutely not aware of this, and of course the fact that the consultant skillfully used the information that the woman provided - "understood her", in fact the guy made the sale and that's it. The legitimate question is, why did the man not insist on his own? The experience he has told him that now it is better not to press, (he first expressed his opinion), they do not like tyrants, and so the woman is happy and good. But at the same time, he received a notification from a woman that she did not accept his experience, knowledge. When such situations begin to repeat, the man, repeatedly, receiving such messages from the woman, realizes that she does not need him with her knowledge system and leaves.

After that, the woman begins to look for the reasons in him, in herself, but since she does not understand what the initial motivation of the man is, she simply gets confused and begins to draw false conclusions. The reason for this behavior of a woman is also in the stereotypes that society abounds in. “A strong, independent woman can decide for herself,” and no one argues with that. The right to choose always remains with the person, the question of what to choose.

There are the results of studying the tribes living in the wilds of the Amazon, primitive people, but they do not see or hear the planes flying over them, because they have no idea and knowledge about the plane. Their brains do not have this information and concludes that it does not exist.

In approximately the same way, people treat some things that they cannot or do not want to understand as non-existent. Our brain is extremely lazy, and it is very difficult to make it think in any other direction. It is easier to roll down the track than to lay a new one. Not only is it difficult, it can also become painful.

Life often gives us both a second and a third chance, but for some reason people like to dance on a rake. Think about it, maybe you shouldn't do this. We often confuse the two questions, why (motivation) and why (cause and effect). In my opinion, it is more useful to pay more attention to your own motivation and try to understand the motivation of others.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.

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