Why Men Leave Women

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In most cases, it all starts with a quarrel, conflict. Women and men behave differently in a scandal, because the reasons for the clarification of relations in a raised voice are also different. A man mostly operates with logic (you didn't), but women are arranged differently. Since emotional and sensory experiences are closer to them, it is sometimes difficult for them even to explain their tantrums logically to themselves. The mood is like this and it is absolutely normal, the woman is so psycho-physiological. Accordingly, a woman, being in an emotionally excited state, sometimes, even not quite consciously, tries to hook male pride, and this is extremely difficult for men to forgive. In addition, it is not clear to the man why he receives such accusations, although the reason was completely different. A woman is overwhelmed with emotions and she just needs to throw them out, otherwise she will be “torn from the inside”. It is not uncommon for the end of such conflicts to be the woman's phrase: “All go away, I don’t love you”. A man leaves because he thinks linearly, if everything is so bad, he must leave and his pride is also hurt. (Men often perceive such a situation as a betrayal, and they rarely forgive this) At this moment, a wise man will come up and hug his woman, despite her protests, because he accepts her in any state, and feels that these are just whims and a splash of emotions. But in the real world this happens extremely rarely, unfortunately not all men have such wisdom, and sometimes it just blows the roof off.

What happens then, after the man leaves, the woman blames him for some time for the fact that he also left (although she told him about it herself). She was offended, and not she was offended, but after a short period of time it comes to her (when the emotions subsided) that, in principle, she herself was over-capricious, spooked, did something wrong. Those of women who can and are able to manage their state of mind and appreciate their man always try to throw out their emotions somewhere else. Go to the store to swear, coming to work to scold subordinates, that is, she tries not to "beat" her man. When this does not happen, the heights of the emotions are received by the one who is at home - the husband. For some reason, it is generally accepted that it is impossible for a woman to show aggression at work, but at home you can be anything you want, they will endure everything, as practice shows, this point of view is not always true. But this is just a matter of priorities.

Another reason for this behavior of women is that they devalue their man for a variety of reasons and attitudes, here is one of them: "All men are goats." During a quarrel, a woman seeks to collect everything that is possible, as claims, so that she does not seem guilty to herself. The strongest emphasis is placed on the fact that a man should, but did not do something (you didn't even order sushi for me, but said that you would always order), for the stronger sex - this is a blow below the belt, with a natural reaction - he will leave …

Sometimes, women manipulate men in this way: “Let's disperse for a while, we need to sort out our feelings,” in fact, a woman wants to motivate a man to try harder to make their life better. And the man will try on one condition, if the woman has previously created the environment in the house that the man likes, to which he is accustomed and appreciates. Remember, the cartoon "Prostokvashino", when the wife says: "Either I, or the cat" To what the husband replies, "Of course you, I have known you for twenty years, and the cat for two days" (I cannot vouch for the accuracy of the quote)

The woman is actually very weak and defenseless, but she is forced to hide it, otherwise, in her opinion, she will be hurt. The only question is how women disguise their weakness."How can I make him come back?" a question that almost always sounds at such consultations. There is an opinion that men do not return - this is not entirely true. A man can forgive a woman for almost everything. If a woman really wants a man to come back, she needs to go up to him and say the magic words “I, too, like you were wrong. Let's talk." Moreover, this must be done without offense, without a sense of guilt (by the way, this is not an excuse, at all). He will most likely accept such an offer as a man's invitation to negotiate. But any negotiations come to an impasse if in the course of them people begin to "butt" and try to get more "tasty buns".

On the question of who is to blame. Both men are to blame for not having enough wisdom to understand that a woman is weak and emotional and to accept it, a woman in forgetting that a man can also freak out if he is driven into a corner, and yes, a child also lives in him.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.