Why Is A Man Jealous Of His Ex?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Often, during consultations, one has to deal with the question of a man's relationship to a woman's former partners, or rather jealousy of her past. Interestingly, both men and women are looking for a solution.

One of the clients described his situation related to this problem in something like this. He talked about the fact that they are happy in marriage, the relationship in the family is excellent, and he and she love and trust each other. From the side of the spouse, the man does not see any prerequisites that would give him a reason for jealousy. But at some point, thoughts come that she used to have another. And it is to him that aggression arises. And since the client is quite emotional, it is difficult for him to restrain this feeling for a long time. And sometimes this mood affects the relationship with the woman he loves and is reflected in other areas of activity. In the client's case, these are outbursts of anger towards subordinates.

Women who raise this topic during the sessions also notice the fact that they begin to feel some coldness and alienation on the part of the man. In some cases, it can go so far that a man himself can start a quarrel or scandal over some insignificant reason.

In this situation, there is a background that people often do not pay attention to, in my opinion, it is completely in vain, this is where they make mistakes.

It's about how people talk about their past relationships. And how they do it.

Let's start with women. Some of them talk about their past fans in great detail. They describe the whole process of the relationship quite emotionally. On the one hand, this is due to the fact that a woman remembers what moments in a past relationship, she was pleased and thus tries to give a hint to her current man. On the other hand, this behavior is explained by the fact that a woman believes that she should be honest with her man, and, although this reason is less common, she, too, can be brought to the point of absurdity. (intimate details of life with the ex are unlikely to be able to strengthen the relationship with the present)

As for men, some of them specifically try to ask a woman about the details of her past relationship. The purpose of such questions is to compare himself with former men, and as a result, a possible increase in his self-esteem, due to the fact that now it is his woman. But the fact is that with the help of these same questions a man can find out what he is worse than the former, and this is a very strong blow to male pride. And naturally, over time, this can develop into jealousy of the woman's past. In addition, any man at heart is an owner, in a good way, and for him to share his woman with someone (even the memories of his ex) is sometimes completely unbearable.

Of course, there should be trust and sincerity in a relationship. But in my opinion, it is completely unnecessary to focus on the past (everyone has it) and to devote a partner to all its details. The past cannot be returned, but the future can be built.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.