2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
- What do you feel?
- I do not know
- What do you want now?
- I do not know
- And how should a person behave so that it does not hurt you?
- I do not know.
- What gift do you want? Do you like this bag?
- Well I do not know.
I don’t know - this is our block. As soon as we say this phrase, we stop exploring our want. We stop developing and finding something new, striving somewhere.
If we say “I don’t know” to our feelings, sensations, emotions, we lose contact with ourselves. We do not give ourselves the opportunity to know the emotional-sensual sphere, at the moment when another is interested in it. Moreover, if people are interested in my inner life, most likely, the interlocutor's internal processes are also important. It is these people who can help us open up, pave the way into our inner home.
When we say “I don’t know”, then we become in a passive position in relation to ourselves. What does our “don’t know” mean? If I “don't know” something, then I have the knowledge of the world to learn. Who will know for me? Who will tell me what I want, how I feel, with whom I can be friends? Of course, there will be those willingly who will give advice, but will this be my life? In such a case, there is a risk of dependence on others. In addition, if I choose “don't know”, then I will follow the lead of “know” people, which means that I will mostly satisfy their needs, but not my own.
I see two reasons for such a position in life. Whoever sees more, I will be glad if you share in the comments.
1. Responsibility and lack of desire or motivation. Every time the phrases “I don’t know” or “I don’t understand” come to mind, try to ask yourself, but you generally want to know and understand. Perhaps this is your way to shrug off responsibility and shift it to those who will offer you options. Also, you may be corny not wanting, but not realizing it, or ashamed to admit it. For example, you came to the training, but you don’t want to work on assignments and make efforts. It's easier for you to say that you don't know and don't understand how to do it.
In one situation, this goes away. But where is the risk? When you block yourself from learning and developing in one area, it spreads to others. In fact, this is a certain position of a person that can be traced in simple life situations.
Example: Two female friends are buying clothes. One cannot choose, she says “I don’t know”. Another helps. Offers options, choosing according to your taste. She knows exactly what to buy for herself. This is transmitted to a friend, and she chooses what she is offered. As a result, from such a trifle as clothes, he moves on to life.
2. Lack of independence. For a person all his life, important people have made decisions. In this case, you need to strive for contact with yourself. Constantly ask yourself: “is this my desire, or of others,” “do I really want this,” “this is what I need,” and listen to what the inner voice will answer. It will be quiet and weak, however, the more often you speak to it, the stronger it sounds.
Such a simple phrase, but it gives us so much. Investigate the reason for your “don’t know” and be honest with yourself and others.
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