2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The words of mother and wife are a blessing for children and husband. Any statement is reflected in their inner world.
A woman can both inspire and clip her wings. Her words either reveal potential, strength and resources, or close them with a thousand locks. As an adult, it is very difficult for a person to find the key to these locks, and take the courage to open them.
Women do not even know how their words affect children and spouse.
If their every word is a blessing, then women should think about how they bless their family, and what words their children and life partners hear.
Of course, a man, as a spouse and father, also plays an important role. And he can also believe in his children, inspire them. However, it is difficult for him to cope with this on his own. The support of a woman is very important for him. (In this case, the spouse acts as one of the founders of the family, and as the child's first contact.)
Imagine telling your son that he is terribly slow, because of this you are constantly late with him. Do you really think that it will accelerate from this?
Or you tell your spouse that it is impossible to make any plans with him, as he always answers “we'll see”. Do you think you inspired him to respond in a different way?
Now look, what have you invested in one and the other?
The child is terrible. With a spouse is impossible.
By repeating this every day, you get what you bless. Moreover, both one and the other may have feelings of guilt, which are very difficult to endure. They close internally, shrink, get upset, fall into a depressed state. How can they interact with the world with such a spirit? Will they have self-confidence?
If such phrases influence, then imagine how much criticism, devaluation, lamentation and insults drain the inner resources of the critic.
A woman's faith in her husband and children, their support is an energetic rear for the family. Children and husband are calm and relaxed and they have a field for activity. They don't waste their energy trying to cope with their negative traits and qualities.
Who, if not a woman, can bless every day? Independently, neither the child nor the spouse will be able to “take off” every day, if there is no support and they are told that something is wrong with them, they are somehow not like that. And there is not so much support as such, it may not be there. In this case, phrases play a huge role, which not only cut off the wings, but also lower them to the very bottom.
A woman, like any normal person, can be annoyed, angry in her children and spouse. The way she puts it can be either sweet nectar or poison. This is a colossal job for women. You need to stop yourself at the level of thought. I suggest 2 ways (I'm sure there are more of them):
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When you feel angry and annoyed, ask yourself "why do I feel this way, why do I want to speak this way, and what kind of development I want the situation." Go to the very depths of your desire, do not be afraid to open it to yourself. And then think if you want the same in relation to yourself.
- Find the strengths and close your eyes to the downsides. The easiest way is to make a list of positive qualities. The most difficult thing is to accept yourself and your loved ones the way nature created everyone.
Take care of yourself and others.
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