2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Yesterday a friend sent me an article about daffodils, which I happily recognized myself. Why happy? Because for the narcissist, any attention is happiness. And such an opportunity to hyip is generally a gift.
The image of the heroine turned out to be collective and rather exaggerated - with a set (deliberately?) Of distorted facts and a certain amount of subjective "counting" crap, but overall the article is excellent (I generally really love this author:)). In general, this text prompted me to write my own view - from the inside.
So hello, my name is Victoria and I am a narcissist.
I love attention - that's why I chose to work with the public component of the image. My first profession is a TV journalist.
I have a crown on my head - I do everything to wear it rightfully.
I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, so there are many personal stories on my page that you enjoy reading so much.
I am flattered when they hate me as passionately as they love me. I tolerate indifference well, but it does not inspire me, so that such people rarely linger within my orbit.
I fall in love very selectively, but I know how to be charming. Usually men (and sometimes women) like me from the first meeting so much that they marry me. Sometimes it blows me away, and I become an unbearable little girl who wants a little dress and handles, but on the whole I make a pretty bearable wife. I know how to maintain a good relationship after parting, and this quality gives me the right to some kind of indulgence.
I'm not white or fluffy, and I never position myself that way, but if you are lucky enough to be part of my pack, you can count on unlimited support and all my resources. I am a reliable friend for my own.
I do not really depend on the opinions of others, because I understand myself and my motivation quite well, I know my pros and cons, I clearly build boundaries and do not tolerate encroachments on personal space.
I am harsh, honest, outspoken and I like to call a spade a spade. I love constructive objections and bow to smart interlocutors who know a lot about a good argument.
And I also like to troll boors, idiots and those in a white coat in the comments. I never ban a victim without playing. The graceful banter gives me pleasure and draws attention to the article, increasing its rating. Yes, I can be cynical.
Singing with me in unison to get my attention is useless. I need a challenge. Anything that is simple quickly gets boring. But too much difficulty tires me too. I love it when everything is beautiful, elegant, tasty, in moderation.
Like any narcissist, I tend to be manipulative. Sometimes this happens on an unconscious level, sometimes I do it for a very specific purpose. The profession of a psychologist obliges me to adhere to the framework of ethics. I really try very hard not to overdo it.
Despite the fact that there is a lot of shit in my life, I am an absolutely happy person. I am naturally emotional and empathic, so I don’t have to pretend. I'm also not judgmental and surprisingly tolerant. For this, my clients appreciate me. And for my super professional professionalism, of course.
As you may have noticed, most of my sentences begin with "I." I often use superlatives and sometimes pull the blanket over myself too much. To realize this, I need an outside perspective.
I spend my resources generously on those around me and replenish them through love - ideally, the love of others for me. Therefore, I gather crowds of fans around me, who from time to time have to admire, pity and console me.
Now, if I have caught your attention, I want to point out that "narcissist" is a kind of collective concept. There is a healthy constructive narcissism, the features of which are inherent in almost everyone. There is also destructive narcissism, which, as a rule, is based on narcissistic trauma. There is a "diagnosis" of narcissistic personality disorder - the word diagnosis in quotation marks, because it is not a disease or cure. And, of course, we have all heard about the perverse narcissists who scare fans of horror stories about psychopaths and others like them.
Narcissism is inherent in both men and women, although the latter, in my opinion, carry the crown with great dignity:) Loving yourself and taking care of your needs is quite normal. Whole (integral) personality is always within reasonable limits in harmony with his inner self. This state consists of 1) awareness of one's own imperfection, 2) recognition of the presence of both pluses and minuses, and 3) the ability to accept and love oneself with all this inner baggage.
Psychological education, a solid list of solved problems and happy clients, coupled with empathy, lack of emotional swings and depressive episodes, as well as years of personal therapy and supervision practically proved my lack of NRL and recognized my narcissism as constructive. But I still consider myself amazing. As one friend of mine used to say, "the test, dear, got out of it":)
If you think this is the end, then no. There will be a second part of the article in which I will talk about narcissism from a more professional point of view - without such frank banter.
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