A Little About Other People's Proven Strategies - What Prevents You From Using Them

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In today's world, there are many opportunities to gain knowledge. Moreover, not raw knowledge - the kind over which you need to think, analyze and think something there.

Proven knowledge, already tested by someone in practice. Raw knowledge in the form of volumes of book information or gigabytes of watched video itself is of little interest. Today this stuff is in bulk. Obsolete currency.

Today, people are sharing personal experiences, which is very cool. The person invented something for himself or read somewhere, and tells how it happened. This is very valuable. And even if it didn't work out, this is also an experience, and also valuable.

There are no failures and defeats, there is feedback. There is such a presupposition in NLP.

And another thing is that not all strategies of one person will suit another. In general, the idea that there is some kind of megaguru who knows exactly how to achieve happiness, success, make money, build happy relationships, etc. is a myth.

I suspect that such an illusion stretches from childhood: in childhood, it seems to a small child that adults are omnipotent and know everything (from the perspective of a child, it is). Then the person grows up and realizes that it works a little differently. Or does not grow up - and all his life he is looking for omnipotent adults.

So that's it. The ready-made conclusions, opinions, strategies of other people are very cool and very valuable. If you look at them through the filter “How can I apply this in my life? Is it right for me?"

Because not everything fits. People are different, forgive the banality. And if someone is motivated by the power and world fame, then the other somehow does not care. It is important for someone to be appreciated and respected by loved ones, for another - that there is a feeling of stability and security. Someone wants to create something of their own, author's, and become famous on this, while others somehow don’t give a damn about it, he just doesn’t care, but who invented it - it’s all the same. The map is not the territory, which is already there.

So that's it. In all this variety of ready-made experiences and strategies, you can even take for yourself. Apply in your life. Try on yourself. Modify and do in your own way, but still based on someone else's experience.

Now - two points that I noticed and which I would like to share.

When you see the experience of another person and get a tremendous opportunity to learn from other people's mistakes, it is very desirable to understand within yourself that any experience is valuable. Even if this experience from the outside seems to us somehow "not so".

And if another person shares some practical experience, and then a critic turns on in his head and tries to devalue it, then it would be good to learn how to turn off this critic. Well, or go do it yourself and share your experience - the desire to criticize will disappear very quickly. Along with some illusions about myself.

Because we have an army of devaluators on social networks (and not only). Who, just hearing that a person is sharing some experience, tells something about himself, they immediately look for how and on what to devalue. So that you can say "I am better."

So that's it. You can always find what you are better than another. Especially if this other is doing something, and even talking about it. And at this time you do nothing and criticize someone else's experience.

Here's just one thing. Learning from the strategies of others will not work either. This devaluating part - it will not allow you to fully take someone else's experience and learn from another person. Well, if you're better - be kind, come up with your own. Then you don't need someone else's experience.

Second point. Each person has at least several important contexts in life at the same time - for example, family, self-realization, sports, everyone has their own. Within each context, a person goes through certain stages of development. For example, first the task is to create a family, then the task is to maintain warm relations in the family, then something else.

At different stages, a person finds himself different teachers or experts from whom he can learn or take experience.

The only thing is to do it consciously. Different contexts, different strategies. Different stages - different strategies. A strategy that today works mega-cool in the context of the family may turn out to be useless at work, and six months later (if circumstances have changed) it may stop working in the context of the family. Just because the circumstances have changed.

Being able to track your strategies and vary them based on context is cool. Even cooler is being able to consciously apply other people's strategies.