2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In general, I like to observe people - I see so many interesting things: touching, funny, good and not so much. And the good thing is that I often travel by public transport (well, because I live in the Moscow region) and go to all sorts of different public places, such as a skating rink, slides, etc. opportunities abound. And watching children is generally a pleasure.
So, just recently - I "observed" such a case at the rink. Or rather, in the locker room, where people take off / put on rented skates. I sit for myself, unlace my skate on a bench, and here next to me a desperately sobbing boy of about 5 flops down. More precisely, an angry mother "plops" him there, shouting "Good whine, got it." And he calls dad. As far as I understood from the context of the situation: someone fell and smashed his forehead to blood on the rink, which frightened this kid. Well, okay, that's not the point, and not even an angry mother. And the fact is that the mother calls her spouse the boy to calm him down and help to remove the skates along the way.
And dad begins to talk to the child so affectionately, clearly calming him down. Further, I will simply give their dialogue:
Dad: Son, why are you crying like a girl, come on, calm down, you're not a girl. Now let's take off our skates and go home. Well, don't cry.
Son: Dad, I was scared. There's blood in the same place.
Dad: Well, don't look. Close your eyes, do not look and you will not see anything. And you won't be scared.
Son (instantly stopping crying, akimbo and straightening up): Dad, what are you saying. If I close my eyes, I won't see anything at all. How will I skate. I myself will fall.
A curtain)
You should have seen dad's eyes - by the way, he could not find what to answer and translated the topic to some typewriter)
This is what I mean: even now, not even once about the introject deftly and unobtrusively suspended by the child by the father, and not about the fact that there is some kind of trouble in this family with the roles of mom / dad. And to the fact that very often I hear from all sorts of different parents (both clients and just friends / acquaintances) something like: why explain something to children - they don't understand anything. No, dear mums and dads. They also understand how. And sometimes they even understand more than ours. It's just that more often parents do not want or cannot explain. But that's another story …
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