2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The difference (gestalt) of psychotherapy as a practice from psychological science is that psychotherapy does not aim to explain anything. Psychotherapy does not explain, it clarifies. The science deals with the explanation and (sometimes) copes with it successfully, however, the explanation is useful for predicting something that has not happened yet, in order to prevent. For example, the phenomenon of attachment disorder is well studied - we understand that the separation of a child from his mother at a certain age leads to a number of difficulties in later life. But how does this help you here and now, if it so happened that you were this child and now you are faced with difficulties, the roots of which are far in the past? The past cannot be changed. It is unlikely that your relationship with others will be healed by knowing that you were separated from your mother during an important period of infancy. But we can work with what we have now. And then clarification comes to our aid. What are you? I'm with you like this. How are you with me? How do you when I say / do like this? This is how it fits. And so it does not fit. Let's try to agree so that it suits both of us, with all our differences.
Clarification. Not "because" but "how?"
Psychotherapy is a kind of relationship training, where the client explores himself and his characteristics, how he is (in reality and not in concept), how he is, how he participates in relationships, how he interacts, how he organizes his life, what is his role in the difficulties that he faces, and how, with the help of his activity, he can influence these difficulties (or cannot). How is he ok and how is he not ok. And what suits one person in a relationship doesn't necessarily suit another. The past cannot be remade, but one can cognize oneself in the present and rely on this experience, knowledge of one's own characteristics, strengths and even limitations - it helps to negotiate and equip the space in the most appropriate way, instead of engaging in self-deception and getting involved in knowingly losing stories, wasting your resource.
This is such a unique and individual science of one single person.
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