2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
At one time I happened to visit a Bedouin village in Egypt. For many, many kilometers around their settlement there is a desert. They lived in multi-colored faded tents. The merciless sun greedily picks up the paint, leaving only a trace. That is why bright colors are so prized in their culture. They are rare in the ocher desert silence.
Their main source of income was tourists. You can certainly imagine how, at the end of the season, they disperse to their cities as respectable residents. But no. And the reason for that is the children. They make the picture of their life real, and their everyday life unique. Growing up in a Western model, it was amazing to me to see children at work. The girl who led my camel for a walk was four years old. As soon as the child is able to understand what is required of him, then he or she is immediately involved in the activities necessary for the survival of the community. Able to walk - works as a manure collector. Able to hold a long stick above the camel's head - controls and drives the camel. The system is rigid and obligatory for everyone. Each has its own place and specific responsibilities. Such a system is possible only in conditions of a rigid hierarchy and a closed community. Outside the community, a person is practically helpless, since in today's wider society it is necessary to look for one's place on its own, but there is no such skill.
It would seem that modern families in Ukraine and the education system provide the necessary set of skills. But in reality it turns out - no. The modern education system fosters the skill of answering questions accurately. Have you asked a question? It must be answered correctly. The authoritative adult knows the answer in advance. In real life, such a system does not work. It is assumed that from the moment of receiving the coveted passport at the age of 18, a person can be fully responsible for his actions and make independent decisions. I am sincerely interested in: "How?". How can the skill of independent decision-making appear if it is not assumed until the age of 18?
Some Western countries have gone further and raised the age of majority to 19 or even 21. One of my acquaintances who emigrated at the age of 19 together with his wife and son to America from Georgia joked gloomily: “I can raise my son. I can work. I can pay taxes. Drink some wine? Suddenly I’m small at once.”
Infantilism will not disappear tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow will not disappear either. Most reliably, infantile adults can raise new infantile adults. Not because they are bad or wrong parents. The system works best for people according to the principle: "Do as I do!" Especially in childhood, the rest of the ways of knowing the world have not yet been fully mastered.
Experimental education systems are now being tested in individual countries. In them, children have the right to make independent decisions and be responsible for them. So far, no one has precisely determined at what age it is best to introduce this. In our country, similar ways are used by some schools and very rare universities. Parents are also more and more thinking about how to raise their child not just "obedient and comfortable", but also lively, curious, responsible.
Becoming an adult who is able to make independent decisions is an exciting way, but certainly not an easy one. Some begin only after 30 years.
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