2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Breaking up is always painful. Especially if they lasted a long period of time, and ended abruptly and unexpectedly. Of course, the circumstances under which a man and a woman part are very different, but in the end, the two do not have a very good aftertaste in their souls. This can be expressed in such feelings as: annoyance, resentment and even anger. These experiences are quite difficult for any person to experience, and in a state of stress (after all, parting is stress) they can reach their peak values. A person in such a situation changes, in fact, both the way of life and its meaning. Being in such a state, a person naturally wants to get rid of negative experiences as quickly as possible (except for those who find pleasure in suffering). But at the same time, he often overlooks the need to be more attentive to the means that he is going to use for this.
Often, one of the most effective ways to get out of this state, both men and women, consider the beginning of a new relationship, immediately after parting. As they say in folk wisdom, they knock out a wedge with a wedge. For men and women, in such cases, the illusion arises that in a new relationship everything will be different, but often people fall into the trap of their own grievances. And then a new relationship becomes just a way to take revenge on former partners. Moreover, when the resentment or annoyance at the partner, not experienced, begins to control the behavior, then the man and woman behave differently.
Men, in such a situation, not always consciously, but try to express their revenge, through a desire to completely subjugate a woman in a new relationship. Thus, the man in her face takes revenge on his ex-partner. He expresses his negativity through the almost complete suppression of the desires of a woman, he may even resort to violence, he needs obedience, bordering on slavery. For men in such situations, an orientation inward is more characteristic, he builds his behavior this way not for those around him, he wants to raise his self-esteem in his own eyes. At the same time, his ex may not know that someone has appeared with him. Thus, the man's revenge will be completely addressed to the new partner. It is to her that he can hurt. Metaphorically speaking, this is a little boy who takes out his anger on someone weaker and at the same time cries himself.
Women most often express their revenge on an ex-man differently. Since the opinion of others is important for a woman, she will try to advertise her new relationship everywhere. The goal is for the ex to understand who he has lost. At the same time, the attitude towards the man himself, in a new relationship, will most likely consist of manipulations and claims. Since the energy for real feelings, a woman will simply have nowhere to take. From a newly-made partner, a woman, in such a situation, will demand expensive gifts that she can demonstrate in society. The goal is the same revenge. A woman who chooses the path of revenge will strive to stay in companies as often and as long as possible. This can be evidenced by the appearance of a large number of new photos on her social networks, where she looks outwardly happy. Metaphorically, this can be imagined as a girl who is very scared alone.
It is useful for people who have experienced a breakup to know that entering new relationships is much more beneficial when old ones are completed. And the person does not have vivid negative feelings. It is necessary to go through a number of changes and, above all, within oneself, it’s like having a severe cold, it’s better to be healed to the end so that there are no complications.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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