Adult Games Come From Childhood. Part 1

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

As a child, we all play. Games are different.

But some people continue to play into adulthood.

Let's take a look at the types of games and their reasons.

The game "Castles in the air".

So. The child lives in the family. It seems that there are both mom and dad.

But he feels like a superfluous, unloved child.

Or there are constant conflicts in the family and the child thinks that he is not protected.

And the child's psyche is not coping

with the reality in which he lives.

He does not understand how to avoid worries and negative emotions.

And to somehow compensate for this feeling and

to show his positive emotions, he escapes into an imaginary world.

There he is comfortable, there he is heard, they love him there, he feels good there.

There is an escape from reality, an escape into an illusion, an escape into an invented world.

Years pass and the child becomes an adult.

And here two options are possible.

In the first case, the game continues.

Already a woman, not a child, builds "castles in the air."

It happens

when a woman does not accept herself. When she thinks that she has no right to life, to her values, to

your thoughts, your actions, your vision of life. She is not satisfied with reality.

And creates a world by

her rules and there she is good. But the more she sinks into this

the game, the more it moves away from reality

The illusory world absorbs all of her energy.

As a result, there is not enough energy to act in the real world.

There is no strength and desire to improve the real world - through your personality, through actions, through qualities.

As a result, relationships are created in imagination, in thoughts.

The connection between illusion and reality is lost.

And there are no results in any of the spheres of life - neither in personal, nor in everyday life, neither in the career nor in the material.

In the second case, at some stage, a turning point comes and

the woman returns to reality.

It develops, finds itself and is realized here and now.

In a career, in a family, in a spiritual life.

There is a very thin and imperceptible line between reality and illusion.

Don't let the imaginary world take you away

you into your dreams. Take a look at the existing world with love, admiration and understanding.

And he will answer

the same to you.

Game "Queen of discrepancies".

The participant of this game is a bright, strong, self-sufficient woman, who puts too much effort

into external components. Appearance is important to her, position and status in the world that give

the opportunity to feel fulfilled, strong and bright.

But at the same time there is such a woman inside

very modest, indecisive and notorious.

Instead of directing the focus of attention

to create a balance between the inner world and the outside, it is limited only to the outside world.

This focus is shifted so much that the inner world is not

corresponds to the external.

Often a woman is internally dissatisfied with

what she builds outwardly.

But she believes that she must correspond to society, her career, and a man.

She spends a lot of energy on maintaining the facade from the outside, which does not correspond to the inner world.

Such a woman does not always do what she wants.

It is more important for her how she looks in the eyes of other people and what they think about

others around her.

It is important to match a certain image.

But behind this, inner harmony is lost.

There is no fulfillment of your feelings, your desires.

The illusion of the game is that the more

a woman leaves her inner world

and directs its energy to the outside, the more it

does not find harmony and satisfaction.

Game "Mommy".

This is a very tragic game. The woman at some stage accepted

for herself a script that her concern

other people, especially a man, manifests itself in excessive

solicitude.

When building relationships

she is hyper-caring.

Such a scenario can be taken from the parental family, where she did this.

mom - she took care of her husband, took care of the house, carried everything on herself.

And the girl had a feeling

that the attention and love of loved ones can be obtained through hyper-care.

Her attitude towards a man is similar

on the attitude towards a child who is not trusted and is always rechecked.

She thinks that a man himself cannot

cope and can not take responsibility.

By her behavior, she makes you build

relationship, as if she is a mom for her man.

This game is tragic for both sides. A man gets used to such care.

He resigns himself to the idea that not

manages that the woman knows everything better.

And he goes into a passive position, where he agrees on everything.

It is convenient for him that there is a woman who can foresee everything, decide everything and take care of everything. Have

men have no initiative to develop, take responsibility for yourself, your woman and your family.

The woman in this role loses herself as a woman.

Becoming a parent not only for your children, but also for

men, she ceases to be a woman in his eyes.

For this she loses herself, her desires, her emotions.

And she doesn't know how to be in position

when they do something for her, take care of her.

Why does a woman do this?

She unconsciously wants to earn love and show her worth.

through hyper-care. But in such a relationship there is no passion, no relationship.

Why is this game tragic?

Sooner or later, as a man grows up, he leaves his mother for his independent life.

He understands that he will not be able to realize himself under tutelage.

Or becomes addicted to a woman.

He does not grow and mature, does not develop masculine qualities in himself.

In any case, a woman loses a man without even realizing it.

For someone familiar with such games? Or have you noticed this scenario with your friends?

Everything is fixable.

With the support of a specialist, you can bring the relationship back to another level.

And get new emotions. How to be - you decide.

The first step to getting closer to yourself is my free date marathon.

With love and care

Olga Salodkaya