2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I bring to your attention examples of phrases that quite often, in a fit of anger, at moments of offense, misunderstanding in communication with a child, flow like a river from the lips of significant adults:
🔥 My eyes would not see you.
🔥 Do not get in the way, do not bother!
🔥You always bother me.
“I don’t need such a bad, mischievous girl.
🔥 Woe you are my onion.
🔥 Because of you, I could not work normally, did not make a career, did not get married and gave all my strength to you.
🔥I have experienced so much anxiety and anxiety since you appeared.
🔥 Why am I punished?
Such phrases can lead to very unpredictable consequences that no one can even think of.
But as it turns out, unconsciously, even in childhood, the DON'T LIVE attitude is formed.
Because of such statements, you feel that you are not needed and not important.
And you have such internal decisions as:
⚡The world is dangerous, scary.
⚡I am weaker than other people.
⚡I don't know how to make decisions.
⚡It would be better if I hadn’t been there.
⚡Everything is because of me.
“It's all my fault.
⚡I will live while I am unhappy and I will suffer.
These unconscious decisions already in adulthood begin to manifest themselves in important life areas, namely:
✅ It is difficult to make choices, doubts are always tormented;
✅ difficult to achieve success;
✅ it is difficult to set goals, even small ones, and achieve them;
✅ in any situation there is a constant feeling of guilt that I did something wrong, behaved wrong, did not say so.
✅ misunderstanding in the division of responsibility, when it seems you are responsible for everything and everyone.
Many difficulties give up, there is no desire to solve something, but only questions: "why am I living, what is the meaning of this life of mine?", Or even not a desire to live.
And if you found out that they did not want to give birth to you, they thought to have an abortion and so on, then this is a direct hit in the DON'T LIVE attitude. And as a result, suicidal thoughts are possible. Yes, and you may not know about it, not hear, but live according to this setting. After all, even in the womb, the child's mental development and his future life scenario are formed.
And what to do with all this, is it possible to change?
Contact a psychologist, psychotherapist and walk your way accompanied by a specialist.
And Yes! Everything is possible!
Share in the comments what phrases did you hear in your childhood and how they influenced you?
With love❤
Irina Gnelitskaya
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