Adult Games Come From Childhood. Part 2

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

As a child, we all play. Games are different. But some people keep on

play in adulthood. We continue to analyze the types of games and their reasons.

Dragonfly game

We all remember from childhood the fable of I. A. Krylov "Dragonfly and the Ant", in which the dragonfly sang the red summer; I didn’t have time to look back, as winter rolls into my eyes”.

Unfortunately, this behavior pattern also occurs in real life.

With this position, a woman is not initially set up for a serious relationship, not in the mood to create something, not in the mood for a career. She is looking for some kind of illusion.

She thinks that somewhere out there in other respects she will be fine.

Somewhere out there, a man will appear on the horizon who will make her happy.

Somewhere out there in another profession, she will be able to realize herself. She can go over

from one relationship to another. She cannot create something serious. She is constantly

thinks that somewhere out there she will be better. She has the illusion that

somewhere is better. But the more she dwells in illusion and runs away from

building a serious relationship, the more addictive this game is.

What makes a woman play dragonfly?

There is fear behind this game. Fear of responsibility. Fear of intimacy.

Fear of a serious relationship. Fear of not being realized. Fear to admit that

she's not perfect. Fear of making a mistake.

But closer to 35-40 years, a woman begins to realize this game. She understand, that in fact she did not realize herself in a relationship, did not build a career, did not grow spiritually, did not create a material base. And the woman comes to the conclusion

that it is the result of her own thoughts, her actions or inaction, her desires.

Then the realization comes that she is looking for something, but she is afraid or does not want to take

responsibility for the decisions made and the results obtained.

It is at this stage of realization that it is very important to take the right steps and start

correct the current situation. And if you can't cope on your own

or find motivation, then I invite you to personal coaching, where we will step by step

remove fears and obstacles to creating a happy relationship.

And how much you are satisfied with the depth of your relationship with a man. How much in

in your relationship, do you feel trust, openness and harmony? Turns out, creating harmonious relationships and being happily in them is not at all difficult. Just

you need to know a few rules and follow them. And you will succeed!

Game "Mother Teresa"

This game is liked by women who think that they are very kind, selfless, ready to help at the first hint. They have a key idea

that love and concern will save the unfortunate. They are originally aimed at people, who need to be saved. Therefore, they attract men who are

losers - they do not succeed, they are unlucky and they are helpless.

Such a woman will unconsciously pity them, help, support.

In fact, such a game is tragic for both sides. The woman is constantly

in a state of attracting men who need to be saved, pitied, pulled out

of their problems. She loses herself because she only sees the object behind this game.

salvation. And your feelings, emotions and desires fade into the background. It seems to her

that she is kind, sensual, caring. But with such actions, she does not give

to her man and her environment to go through their experience - to grow, get out of

comfort zones, take responsibility, move forward.

False caring and custody relaxes the man and the people around her. A man can

the thought to arise and gain a foothold: “They pity me, they save me, so I myself am not

coping, something is wrong with me. I am worthless and I cannot do something myself."

As a result of such thoughts, self-esteem and motivation falls.

On the other hand, it is very convenient to be in the position of the victim, where he is rescued, they do something for him and solve problems.

And this category of men exists. And such a woman in her surroundings

they will attract. Because she will constantly pity them and save them.

But as a result of such a game, all participants lose their self-sufficiency.

Game "Hunted Housewife"

As a rule, such a woman lives at the expense of her own needs, desires and interests. She has the conviction to grab onto everything

to do everything at once, to do everything myself, to carry the house and family on myself, to cope with everything.

This woman in a relationship wants to be a spouse, a good mother, a good

a cook, a good lover, a good housewife at the same time. She has

it feels like everywhere she needs to succeed and cope. The motto is

women “I am only loved when I serve and please other people.

I want to be perfect and good everywhere. For what she's trying to do

all things at once, somewhere it turns out to be a failure. And not a single thing works out

perfect. And the failure to fulfill the obligations she assumed

perceives it as a personal tragedy. As a result, there is damage to your interests, desires, emotions. A woman loses herself and hers behind all this vanity.

individuality. Such a woman has the conviction that if she will

devote time to your interests and needs, transfer part of the work

her loved ones, she will not be needed, she will not be loved.

Or maybe just try to be a good mom for your children?

And ask grandmother to cook dinner - she will do it great.

Does anyone recognize themselves? And to be honest? Don't be afraid to admit it to yourself.

Awareness is the first step. And then you can try it yourself

fix the situation and stop playing. You can enlist support

a specialist in personal coaching. And then life will sparkle with new colors and

emotions.

What games did you recognize yourself in?

With love and care

Olga Salodkaya