So What Kind Of Women Do Men Like?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The next on the Internet - "what kind of women do men like: strong or weak" prompted to reflect aloud, spit a little and, of course, grumble.

Who is considered weak?

What is the criterion?

- Helplessness?

-Ability to seek support?

What is considered strength?

-Ability to stand up for yourself?

- Persistence?

- Having your own opinion?

-Inconcilability?

-Authority?

The criteria are blurred. But, the context of the author's thought is clearly readable and refers the reader to the stereotyped idea of "Please be weaker" by our Rozhdestvensky Robert:

Please be weaker.

Please be.

And then I will give you a miracle easily.

And then I will stretch out - I will grow up, I will become special.

I will carry you out of the burning house, sleepy one.

I will decide on everything unknown, on everything reckless -

I'll throw myself into the sea, thick, ominous, and save you!..

It will be commanded by my heart, commanded by my heart …

But you are stronger than me

stronger and more confident!

You yourself are ready to save others from grievous despondency, you yourself are not afraid

no blizzard whistle, no crisp fire.

You won't get lost, you won't drown, you won't accumulate evil

You won't cry or get stuck if you want to.

You will become smooth and windy if you want …

It is very difficult for me to be with you - so confident.

At least on purpose, at least for a moment - I ask, being timid, - help me to believe in myself, become weaker.

Well, the message is clear - make yourself weak and helpless, CHANGE in such a way that I, against the background of the weak you, GROW and become strong, i.e. I felt like a man.

Well, okay, the essence of my reflections here is not about the requirements set on edge by which a woman is prescribed to be (and the requirements for male "masculinity" too).

It's about something else. For example, the author writes further, continuing the thought - "and I also do not like women pulling the barbell and boxing."

Ahhh! That's it! Your own preferences and fantasies are passed off as some kind of truth! And often also under the guise of professional opinion. So it is necessary to write - what kind of women "I", the author prefer! Well, I don't like weightlifters! And he will be right and has the right!

But, the author (s) (in fact, not alone!) Makes over-generalizations: "what kind of women do men like? It makes it clear that" a woman who is fond of power sports is not attractive to ALL men."

Overgeneralization is when, on the basis of one event or one's own thought, conclusions of a global nature are made about something.

My own experience of debunking the standard ideas about life was obtained by me at about the age of 11.

My parents had a married couple as friends: He is a handsome man.

She, in my opinion, is, as it were, to put it mildly - a rather non-standard appearance: large, larger than him, fleshy and very snub nose, small close-set eyes. I immediately found a resemblance to a piglet and puzzled my mother with the question: "Did she forcibly marry him?" Then the thought did not fit in my head - why, such a handsome man can love such a strange woman?

To which my mother received an answer:

"Julia! What are you! He worships her. He is behind her, as if behind a stone wall. As soon as she wiggles her finger, he is next:" Verunchik, Verunchik.

She is awkward, loud, domineering, does not tolerate objections, possessed an amazing sense of humor, enormous power of intelligence and organizational skills, and any gatherings with friends in her presence turned into a theatrical performance, where everyone was involved. Yes, of course - everything in the family was decided by her, but how comfortable was this handsome man in this. All her decisions were correct a priori and were not discussed. He believed that it was thanks to her, rather quickly, in that Soviet time - the house was full of a bowl, cars, dachas, etc.

So what am I doing?

Answering the question

"So what kind of women do men like?"

I will answer - DIFFERENT!

Suitable individually for a specific man, based on HIS individual needs.

A man likes a woman who is domineering, dominant and makes all decisions in the family on his own - these are his needs, and he is so comfortable!

There is a need for a man to stand behind a powerful woman's back, to give all responsibility into her hands, and at the same time to feel valuable, loved - he will choose a woman who will satisfy these needs. The one who, at the same time, has her own complementary needs - to take care, take care of and control everything herself.

Like a man, based on his needs, his own experience, beliefs and picture of the world, to be a dominant, mentor, practically the father of his partner - he will choose the one that is able to satisfy his need for mentoring and care.

Different women are preferred by men: slim, plump, blondes, brunettes, young, aged, with or without children, scandalous, complaisant, dominant, domestic, fatal, etc. - this is the only correct overgeneralization (in my opinion)))

All the rest are private fantasies and projections that have nothing to do with the majority or the truth.