Like Attracts Like Or How To Find "your" Psychologist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Our whole life is permeated with the search for "our own": a place in life, people, work, city, home, bar, etc. But, for some reason, when it comes to finding a psychologist, few people think that a specialist should be "their own".

The psychologist is not universal, like any other specialist. It's not only about the quality of the work, but also about a simple human set of character, temperament, intelligence, upbringing and their own traumas. This is such a classic set of an individual with whom he goes into society. And then the extension begins and the combination of your set with strangers. Somewhere it is easier, somewhere harder. Somewhere you can put up with something. But such an intimate, painful and important thing as working with a psychologist requires a special attitude towards itself. The psychologist-client contact must be accurate, delicate and professional. The client should feel safe, and the psychologist should be confident in what he is doing.

The psychologist does not have to have the same views, opinions, age or principles. This happens on some other level, which is not always realized. I am sure that for a good, high-quality study of requests, the client should feel that "yes, I want to keep coming here" or "yes, I want to continue working on myself with this person." This does not always become clear after the first session. Although it should be of an informational nature, aimed precisely at feeling this compatibility. If the client did not feel the result after the first meeting, this does not mean that the specialist is not suitable for him. Here it is necessary to focus not on the "usefulness" of the meeting, but on the sensations from it.

What to focus on when looking for a specialist:

1. Try to ask relatives or friends.

But these should be people who are as close to you in spirit as possible. And even then, there is no guarantee that their specialist will suit you.

2. Search through psychological centers, but it is also best to find a psychologist in social services. networks. Because it is important to know how a person thinks (albeit on professional topics), what he writes about, how he presents himself. I also recommend that you definitely find a photo. If a person is outwardly unpleasant to you, it will be more difficult to work.

3. At the first meeting, do not wait for results, but take a closer look at the person. Ask how he works, in what approaches, ask him to talk about them. It is important for you to understand whether you are ready to work under such and such conditions.

Why do you need “your” specialist?

In order for it to take less time to "grind" to each other, trust would be generated faster. With such a psychologist, there will be less resistance in the work, it will be of better quality, which means more successful.

It is not always a matter of the qualifications and experience of a specialist. Psychologists do not work with machines; they interact with people. Relationships develop between the psychologist and the client (or not), and this is normal. Like attracts like, so the psychologist does not need to be afraid of the client's leaving, and the client does not spare the time to find a specialist who is right for him.